The money was only the fuel for my addiction

By the way Dave you inspire me!

Hi Tamber 

By relating to each other is a healthy kind of honesty.

Thank you for your comments as you share you to will inspire other people to be healthier today.

Thank you for your sharing, take good care of your self.

Love and peace to every one

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

Hi Tamber.

For me true happiness is being content with who I am today, being content with who I am with, being content with what I have, being content with where I am. 

The money was just the fuel for my addiction.

I did not value money and I did not value myself.

I was not greedy in the material way.

Using aggression and confrontation against aggression and confrontation causes further escalation of rage and anger.

The moment I said to myself oh who cares any way was the instant I was giving up all faith and hope in myself.

In hurting other people we hurt our self.

It is healthy to not take nothing for granted.

The recovery program was not about fight, the recovery program was about having inner peace with in myself.

I am enjoying our time in the relationships, the most important thing in my life today is healthy relationships and using my time wisely.

Yes to love ourselves, is very important, only when I love myself can I love other people.

It is possible to succeed by taking slow stable baby steps one day at a time.

Kind regards Dave

@tamber12 

It is very healthy to relate to each other.

Thank you for your comment.

In my recovery there have been two people who told me that they hated me.

Now I was very surprised but I understood that both people were able to be completely honest with me.

That honesty and peoples therapies are all about our being completely honest with out any fears.

I got to understand that being aggressive against a person is aggressive did nto heal our pains.

I got to understand that being angry indicated that I could not heal my pains, that that I could not reduce or face my fears, that I could not reduce my unreasonable expectations of people life or situations.

My frustrations were pains that I was causing my self.

I have been able to stop reacting in such unhealthy ways and being able to interact in healthy ways.

Take good care of your self.

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham

Thank you for your comments

Thank you for your comments

@tamber12 

Hi Tamber

For me happiness is contentment and feeling secure in my self.

For me showing my appreciation and gratitude is an expression of my healthy values towards my self and others.

I use to think that money would make me feel successful that was not so.

I use to think that money would heal my pains it did not.

For me showing my appreciation and gratitude is also a big intimacy action.

Money gives me more choices, money did not heal my pains.

Money did not heal my pains I caused by my betrayal of peoples trust..

My anger was an unhealthy reaction to my pains not healed.

My anger was an unhealthy reaction to my fears not faced or reduced.

My anger was an unhealthy reaction to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations thata did not go my way.

My control issues just indicated how inadequate and insecure I was.

Going back to gambling after my anger or rage just made things much worse than they were.

Once in the recovery program each time I went back to gambling was a lesson to be learned.

I do hope that you ar elookiong after your self.

Dave L

@tamber12 

Hi Tamber

Every one has an opinion as to what is happiness is.

Is happiness being content with our self and our world.

Do people need money or material thing to feel happiness.

Is happiness a value that people place on things in their life.

True happiness grateful which indicates how much we value our self others and the productive point we are at in our life.

I now know that true happiness people can not buy it, it is a vlue we hold with in our self.

What do people think about being successful.

Is it money or power.

Showing gratitude is an expression of our healthy values.

Emotional intimacy and healthy relationships are very important, for our inner healing and our inner peace.

When i gambled I was being self destructive.

When i gambled I was being filled with fears.

When i gambled I was escaping so much from my life.

Money was never going to make me feel content with in my self.

Money gives me more choices in my life.

Triggers for me were my pains not healed.

Triggers for me were my fears not reduced or faced.

Triggers for me were my unreasonable expectations of people life or situations.

Triggers for me were my being bored.

Triggers for me were my feeelings of isolation and escaping from every thing and every one.

My anger was an unhealthy reaction to my pains my fears or my frsutrations or all of them at the same time.

I use to fear aggression.

Then I got to understand that fear of aggression was due to people earlier in my life transfering all their pains fears and frsutrations on to me.

Is agression a way of bullying and intimadating other people.

I take nothing or no one for granted when I am a healthy person.

In effect my gambling was a form of wrking for nothing,

Having nothing to show for all of my hard work.

I am most certainly enjoying my time in healthy relationships.

Thank you

Dave L