Hi everyone.
I'm new here and looking for some advice.
I've been seeing a guy for about 3 months now - who I'm starting to develop quite strong feelings for.
Right at the start he was upfront with me and told me he had debts due to his gambling. He works hard but is in a low paid job - however I witnessed him bet £1000 to try and recoup the £170 he had lost earlier in the evening - luckily he one (£30 overall - which seems ridiculous for such a large risk!) He explained to me that he is ok if he wins his first bet - he can then stop, but if he doesn't he keeps going.
Yesterday he lost everything he had - about £3k I believe. He is now very depressed and low and thinks he has nothing to live for. Maybe foolishly I've offered to 'loan' him some money - however he did refuse - which I was surprised about.
So I guess my question is - is he addicted to gambling? Is there anything I can do to help him?
Thanks in advance x
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I won't write much because it might offend too many, but I agree with post above. I'd get out now.
If I would have seen what was coming in my life, i'd have taken a different path. But the secrets, lies and deceit were so clever and i trusted the promises. All broken of course.
Be careful.
Get out now x
Many thanks for the responses.
If I would have known the full extent of what was going on for the past 12 years, I'd have gotten out back then.
Now i find myself with two children ( 12yrs & 15yrs) and a husband who has debts. A house that i am trying to save . A marriage that is over, but a husband who continues to throw his money to the bookmaker.
Who will help pay for university?, who will my children turn to for financial advice?
Get out now were the words after my previous post and I agree.
Hi
I can only echo the comments of other people, I'm afraid. Get out while you can before you get sucked into it. With all honesty, if I had known about my husband's gambling before I married him, I wouldn't have done so. After 3 months you're still in a position to walk away relatively easily.
With love x
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