hello I'm looking for some advice to see if anyone had a similar situation?
a family member has a gambling problem for a while and causing a lot of stress in the family.
the problem is he won't get help or try and sort out the problem which I know can only come from him. A family member taken control of his money but still found ways to gamble from his account he lies tries to borrow money makes excuses ect. Basically we stuck as to what to do he wants control of his money again- we know this will just get worse if we agree.he lives at home and his parents have had enough and at the point of giving up they have had enough as nothing is changing. He is very lonely has no friends no girlfriend can't go out so also depressed so everyone worries about his state of mind but everyone just at the point of there nothing anyone can do- if the money control is given bk it will get worse probably lose his job and be on the streets - some family members worried about this and find it hard to just let that happen - what else can we do?? Everyone has tried to support him but we at the point of not much else we can do . I don't think anything will change until he makes that effort and tries to get help, if he don't get help do we just stand back and not get involved anymore? easier said then done! Anyone had a similar situation to give advise on? Thanks in advance x
hi va
this is a very difficult situation I myself am a compulsive gambler and had family and friends try to help me out before when I wasn't ready or didn't see my problem but it completely went over my head, it seams crazy why someone wouldn't want help but very few compulsive gamblers accept help before they hit rock bottom!
there is help out there for people effected by a compulsive gambler so maybey pass this on to the parents, support group meeting ect
as you say giving control back of funds will be fatal no doubt about it, if it is going to happen maybey try a trade for reading stories on this site or attending a GA meeting and see how he feels?
hopefully you get some more advice on here I don't post often
matt x
Sorry to hear it but can only echo the advice that Cathy gave you last time. You've tried everything but it's not worked because he is the person placing the bets and he is the only person who can desist placing the bets.
If and when he decides that gambling is worse than not gambling, the help is out there for him.
Focus on yourself, try a GamAnon meeting, call the helpline, read up on the addiction.
CW
Hello - I have just found out that my daughter's partner is a compuslive gambler - they are living with me and she is expecting her first child. They are supposed to be saving to move out - he had his wages paid into his account last Friday for the first time and blew the whole lot in a couple of hours. I don't know what to do - I am so worried for her - and the life she will have if she stays with him and somehow they get a place together. I managed to get him a job where I work and have let him live rent free to try and get straight financially. I was not aware he was gambling until last Friday. I am talking with them both tomorrow evening and would appreciate some advice. Do I make him leave? Do I let them deal with it themselves? I am so worried about this. Any advice gratefully received. Many thanks Kim
hi Kim
sounds like a tough situation for yourself and your daughter,
being a compulsive gambler myself I can tell you for most it's a touchy subject but always best to get it out in the open and talked about especially If it's under your roof! this will make things much easier,
potentially give him 1 last chance to get help from the right people, helplines or for me the only option is to attend GA meetings,
keep us updated there is also things for people affected by gambling please check this stuff out
matt
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