Partner of 4.5 years has 'given up' gambling a few times over the years - now I know this is no easy feat! Not by any means, but over the years I've expressed to him that it's not necessarily the gambling that I have an issue with but the lying and hiding it. I've told him many times to come to me if he relapsed because its my role to support and help rebuild. Â
So fast forward to now, he's been 7 months with no gambling of any kind. And putting out the rubbish yesterday I find a scratch card in the bin. I asked him about it and he shrugged it off as 'it's just one'.... now I'm questioning the last 7 months.Â
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Can it ever be just one for a gambler who's has too many clean starts to mention?Â
And what do I do, is this going to ve the cycle?Â
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Clean time can not be lost.
Dave L
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@ibbs2220 it's a hard one... I remember that one guy in my recovery group brought the odd scratchcard and didn't count it as gambling.
I think for a problem gambler any form of gambling gives the same rush and feeds the gambling problem.
It could genuinely be a one off scratch card or it could be the top of the iceberg.
Either way you have every right to expect some answers from him.
All the best 👍🏼Â
Hey.Â
Any form of gambling is gambling no matter how u look at it.Â
I myself were getting lottery tickets on the national lotto app before life’s stresses got me if u like at the time & I had a full on splurge on an online casino.Â
That was last year, I since strengthened my blocks, went back to GA & that’s helped strengthen my resolve. I haven’t had a bet since & I don’t ever intend to again in my life, albeit taking things one day at a time. After having many relapses in just over 10 years of gambling.Â
The problem is, your partners gotta want to do it for himself, and hopefully before the time where he ends up with absolutely nothing as a result of it.Â
Think he’s gotta take some accountability for his actions & prove to u he’s not gambling I.e financial statements, handing over his bank cards living on an allowance etc.Â
I would suggest he tries GA & coming on here as well.Â
PM me if u need.Â
My name’s Rob & I am a compulsive gambler, my last bet was on 5/8/23
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I’d be really uneasy about that. The gambler in my life has dabbled in other types of gambling and dismissed my concerns. And then revealed he hadn’t stopped and had got into huge debt.
If you’ve stopped gambling you don’t gamble at all, and you take that seriously as far as I’m concerned.Â
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