Hes relapsed again but he is in denial.

Partner of 5 years has been gamberling most of our relationship. He won 10k two year ago, came clean and told me he lost it etc.

I took over the finances, 9 months later I realized 3k was missing from the savings. I kicked up a fuss and he admitted he brought me am engagement ring, he was sick of not being able to spend his own money without me watching. He said he's OK now and don't need baby sitting.

Stupid me believed him.

March last year, he came clean that he stole 10k from My personal savings. He then for the first time went to Gam care and got counciling for 6 months. Told me "the therapist said you don't need to have control over my finances as you aren't my mother"

Said he hit rock bottom and he can't believe he nearly lost us. Said he's free now he's stopped gamberling.

Over xmas, we took our 4 year old to a xmas funfair. He was on his phone, I asked him what he was doing and he said watching a raffle he was in. 

I asked why he's still gamberling and he said "it's a little pound on the raffle, like you have a go on the lotto, it's harmless"

I kicked him out a few weeks later due to him doing the bare minimum for our child. He still living with his mom but we was working on our relationship.

Yesterday, I had 2 certificates posted in his name from a Facebook raffle site staying "you have long received your money, but please could you take a picture of yourself with the winning certificate.

One was £1000 and one wad £975, both dated December. I phoned him and asked him what he's playing at? He said they were from way before and he said they have dated them wrong. I asked for bank statements to prove this and he said no. "You're not controlling me, my money is mine and it's none of your business"

On top of all this, last week he took me away for a night at valentine's day, he was paid that day (high weekly salary) and said he had no money? Even though he's now living at his moms and only paying £400 child matienence to me and £200 keep to his mom. He earns over that much a week never mind a month. He keeps asking me to borrow money but says me seeing his bank account is "none of my business"

Today he dropped my daughter back off him and threw the key in the hallway. Is this Normal behavior of a gamberler? Rather run than face the facts? Rather lie than come clean even though he's came clean before? Rather go back to live with their mom than fight for their family? Is it normal for them to stop caring about you? And is it possible he is only have a few quid on a raffle? 

I'm having therapy through a gamberling site who helps me loads but I'm finding it only helps for that day. When I wake up the day after, the feeling off "am I the problem" "do I not trust him and I'm unfair and harsh" 

Please help! I'm so alone and fed up.