Looking for some advice for my wife. I'm a compulsive gambler and last night I relapsed for the first time, after going bet free for a year.
I told her this morning, because part of our agreement originally was that we would be transparent about things, despite the consequences. I have a fundamental belief that you should take accountability for your actions and I was prepared to honour whatever she felt on the matter.
By God's grace, or one of my nine lives, she has been understanding and has agreed to support me this time - with some conditions.
1. I work overtime to repay the money I spent.
2. I re-engage with support services and start going back to GA again weekly.
3. She takes control of the finances (something she really doesn't want to do, but we both agree is a sensible step for the foreseeable future).
4. We have a weekly check in where I talk to her about any feelings I have about gambling so she doesn't feel shut out.
I feel this are more than reasonable and I count myself lucky I have another shot at putting things right.
My question is to both family affected by gambling and those who continue to remain free of the curse of gambling. Do you have any suggestions that might help my renewed recovery or help my wife rebuild her trust in me?
I appreciate any help in advance.
Just for today, I will not gamble.
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