Just found out my husband has had a secret gambling addiction for 2 years

Hi Freerunner - start your own thread, it will be easier for people to see, read and support....

I'm really sorry you are facing this though. It's not your fault and I hope he is taking every bit of action he can now.

In regards the debt, he might want to look at a website called debt camel for some great advice and possibly even about how to try and reclaim some interest through affordability complaints, however this is a long and not guaranteed process so don't get any hopes up, just worth a flag.

I would also suggest you should obtain credit reports for you both and also you should be given access to each and every account in both your names - this all needs to be written down so that you can see exactly what the situation is - then you need to ask him what he is doing about it, then he needs to prove that he has taken all those steps - no promises/ commitments etc - just hard, actual action that is evidenced.

Do not trust or believe a word he says in regards money - not even about £1

You do not have to do anything in regards your relationship - make no decisions (unless you already have) you just need to see the full picture so that you can protect yourself - you are the only one that is going to do so.

Think about phoning the helplines via here and talk to an expert, get yourself some support

Congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry it is now overshadowed by the stress of this situation, best wishes and if you do start your own thread, I am sure that you will receive some wonderful advice from other f&f whom have faced similar situations to yours because of compuslive gamblers like myself

take care and look after yourself

Hi Jess2205,

I’m also the wife of a CG, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this too. I found out in September last year, he didn’t tell me himself- this is something I really struggle with and resent him for.

When I found out, I telephoned Gamcare and they put us on the waiting list for counselling sessions (separately). I found these really helped and I don’t know about you, but as I hadn’t told any friends about his addiction, it was my outlet for having someone to talk to about it. I had telephone sessions (childcare made attending actual sessions tricky). It’s positive that your husband is going to GA too

I too have been feeling trapped and alone, so please know that you aren’t alone. I’d love to be able to offer advice about forgiveness and moving forward, but I currently just feel trapped and only here for my young boys. I hope things have gotten better for you in the last few months x

I am at the end of my tether with my wife we have been married for 50 years and she has been gambling on machines and more recently on line bingo.This has cost us tens of thousands of debt that I have had to sort out which in fact has left my pension savings almost gone.She promised me the last time I paid her debt off that she wouldn’t do it again but found out she has another credit card debt.I can’t live like this in retirement I don’t have private pension only had savings for retirement I feel it may be time to live separately But at 72 years of age is such a shame but feel the gambling has won.