HI, my partner is doing brilliantly and I so proud of him, my heart is full of love and admiration on the way he is dealing with his addiction at the moment.
The problem I have is he talks on here about being depressed and about his feelings. Which does hurt me because he wont talk to me (maybe that is a woman thing I don't know), but what worries me is if he cant talk to me about how he is feeling how is he ever going to tell me if he relapses. He has no reason at all not to tell, like I have said him just let me know when you are going to relapse. I am a fellow addict but mine was alcohol so I do understand relapse and I understand when the demon addict gets you. Part of me is scared I wont be able to help till its to late and we have to hit the bottom again, but part of me is hurt and I need to find focus and let these feeling go because I am so proud of him and the way helps others. I have always said you should talk to who you need to, but sometimes that can be a tough lesson to take. Guess its still more raw what happened than I thought. Thanks for reading and any advice please
Hi Lou
I don't know if this will help but I'll try anyway
( sorry guys) but men are well known not to sit and talk about their feelings. Many of them would probably like to but don't know how to start the conversation
Your husband communicating with others on here is a good step to communicating with others rather than a fobt or whatever his poison was
Maybe you could both arrange a day/evening once a week where you could both sit and read each other's diaries and calmly broach any subject written about. That way you both have the opportunity to raise any concerns in a calm way and the conversation doesn't come as a surprise or feel like a grilling.
Hope this helps
Shelly
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