So I posted last month and my bf wanted to split he stayed throughout the month and things seemed good he started GA meetings and a general addiction meeting however payday came around and so did his desire to leave again, we talked over a couple of days and he stayed , 4 days later he tells me he needs space I accepted this yet came home to find he has taken his stuff and posted the key! He said he needed to think what he wanted he wasn't sure he wanted us so beginning of the week I told him I was unburdening him and making the decision next day I asked if it made him feel better he said it didn't so I told him to come to me if he thought we could be okay, he said he'd come the next day then he said he had a bad day and would be the day after then I had silence, I tried to ring / text nothing ... I sent a direct email saying I guess I had to accept this thing had taken him... nothing... he's***t rock bottom before and has been suicidal so I was worried and messaged to say just check in he said he was and now I'm sat back at home crying I lost the person I should have by rights spent the rest of my life with I love him and I wanted to help him but he's gone and not given me a chance. I know this is no good I do but I want to help him and I'm scared he won't come back, will he? Will he ever see that this was his addiction? Or is that it?
Hiya Lost, sorry for what you are going through. I don't know if he will be back hon, but if he doesn't want to stop gambling yet, there is nothing that you can do. You need to work on yourself now. Is there a gamanon that you could join for support, or contact gamcare for counselling for you. His gambling has hurt you too, and you may need support to rebuild your life. Take care x
I guess I need someone who has been there to tell me it's normal and they come back he says I'm everything he'd want in a partner but due to his issues he won't allow me to be there and it's tearing me apart if it was a fault in us maybe it'd be easier to accept?
He said he has stopped but I can't help but think it was no coincidence that it was payday he wanted out like he didn't want to answer to anyone now he had the means to do it again x
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