He's been gambling for a long time, but I wouldn't call it a very big problem. He works, but he spends too much money on gambling. He's probably trying to make more money than he would at a regular job.
I worry about him since he is my brother. But do I have the right to meddle in his life because he's a grown man. Tell me your opinion, please.
Only my opinion,
But ask yourself this question, if the boot was on the other foot would you want him to do the same for you.?
If the answer is Yes then word it exactly like that , ``i hope if you were ever worried about me, that you would try to find out if i had problem is to offer and help with advice and support, and that is exactly what id like to do here``,
It gets a bit tricky if the answer is NO.
Just to add us gamblers hardly ever disclose the full extent of our Debt, Addiction or the Lies we have told.
Gambling Addiction is a problem but it should`nt define who we are, coming clean is much easier to do if Non threatening and non judgmental, but it is a hard conversation to bring instigate no matter how good the intention is.
And finally well done for coming here with a view to helping him.
Good Luck
Not a battle you can fight for him
many have tried many have failed to beat gambling for a loved one
Its a solo battle of willpower and determination and too some extent an entire lifestyle change
I hardly watch football anymore because I know it will make me want to bet on it
After I stopped I realised I didn't really miss it that much especially games which were c**P
Only my opinion,
But ask yourself this question, if the boot was on the other foot would you want him to do the same for you.?
Difficult question... If I know what I'm doing, I don't need help. But on the other hand, some advice might keep me from making a mistake.
Thank you for your opinion.
Not a battle you can fight for him
All that's left is to worry about him....
Thank you for your opinion.
Hi Flynn
My husband is a compulsive gambler and 4 years ago hit his rock bottom. The turning point was his dad asking him if he has a gambling problem and that they can talk about it. My husband (then fiance) kept it all from me and was very good at it, i had no clue apart from knowing that he’s always broke because he didn’t manage his finances well. When his dad reached out to him, they talked about what help is available that he should let me know about it. He was so scared but he did it with his dad’s support.
He always told me that if not for his dad reaching out, he doesn’t know where he’ll be now.
My suggestion is to reach out if you think he has a gambling problem, and offer support in a non judgmental way. I hope it goes well.
Hi Flynn
My husband is a compulsive gambler and 4 years ago hit his rock bottom. The turning point was his dad asking him if he has a gambling problem and that they can talk about it. My husband (then fiance) kept it all from me and was very good at it, i had no clue apart from knowing that he’s always broke because he didn’t manage his finances well. When his dad reached out to him, they talked about what help is available that he should let me know about it. He was so scared but he did it with his dad’s support.
He always told me that if not for his dad reaching out, he doesn’t know where he’ll be now.My suggestion is to reach out if you think he has a gambling problem, and offer support in a non judgmental way. I hope it goes well.
When you find out about something after a long time, it seems especially painful. I hope you will get through this and find a way out of the situation.
Thanks Flynn, my husband is now 4 years gamble free. His recovery journey started when his dad reached out to him to and asked if he needs help. I hope your brother also appreciate it if you decide to reach out to him about your concern.
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