No more tricks up my sleeve...

Hi All- I'm new to this forum however have just spoken to Gamcare for the first time in my life and they have advised that this forum would be useful, so will give it a go!

In November last year I met a wonderful man, we fell in love, and were inseparable.

I had never had any experience of gambling before, and agreed to loan him some money. As soon as I had made the transfer, I did not hear from him for two days and then received a text to say that he had lost all the money.

Naturally, I got very worried about him and could not understand what happened. How could you just "loose" several thousand pounds in two days?

Because I loved him, and wanted him "to be okay" and thought it would help, I agreed to give him more money.Naturally, this was lost on online sport gampling as well. At this point, my other half was living with me.

One night he rang me up and broke down crying on the phone, he had used my debit card for sports gampling without my knowledge.

I tried whatever I could think of- rang the Gamonon helpline, tried to speak to his family but was accused of going behind his back and it all blew up in my face. I tried to encourage him to find a job he liked, but was told he wasn't interested in working and he wanted to make his fortune on *******. I begged him to consider therapy or Gamcare, but he just got angry with me.

I then came across a book called "Loving and Addict, Loving Yourself" by Candace Plattor, which was an eye opener and it helped me understand the difference between "helping" and "enabling". So I started to refuse to give in to the demands.

It's such a desperate situation, I just want him to get help and get better, however he just doesn't seem to realise what's happening, it's as though he is "possessed" and nothing else matters to him, all he can think about is *******.

Has anyone else had this type of experience, and what advice would you give me?

Thanks so much!