I have recently found out about my husbands gambling. It was an absolute shock, I knew he had a slight history of gambling before we met around 11 years ago, but I don’t think he’s ever been honest or clear about the support he needed or how bad it was. Anyway jump to our current situation, I found out he has been gambling online and has spent our savings and is in thousands of debt, our relationship and recent struggles now seem to make sense. There has been so many lies and I feel absolute betrayed. I can not believe this is happening or he has done this. I have asked him to leave since finding out, and have not seen him only spoke over text. I feel so angry and hurt and do not think I can ever get past this or trust him again. But I feel guilty for not supporting him, but feel for me and my daughter I have to be strong. I will always love him and want him to get the help, which he is, but right now I can’t be with him, but why do I feel guilt?
Hi
For me the gambling just indicated that I had certain emotional triggers.
By going to meetings made me aware of how unhealthy I was.
By me being consumed by the gambling that I was in self destructive mode.
Only once I identitified how unhealthy I was could I then find a healing recovery path.
For me it required me of meeetings to understand my self.
I have been in recovery over 50 years.
I have been married over 53 years.
I am still married I have one son and two grand children.
I would not be the persson I am today with out dedicating lots of time attendings recovery meetings.
There are GA Meetings ad theere are Gamanon meetings.
By both people attendning the meeting the family heals together.
I hope you can support your self and your husband during this very painful testing time.
Out of this healing there is lots of humour and emotional intimacy today.
My hurt inner child is still healing and my wifes hurt inner child is still healing.
Love healing and peace to every one.
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
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