Hi my name is Kasia,a week ago my partner of 11 years has moved out due to me telling him to go. I am strugling a big time, as not only i am worried about him but terryfied of what is going to happen next. I dont belive he wants to stop as he is cutting me out, he doesnt care, refuses my help. I dont want to lose him to this but I felt like there is nothin else i can do to help him. I feel hopeless and a big part of me feels like a have dissapointed him. Deep down in my heart i know that he will get worst and i cant stop but think it will be my foult as i told him to move out. I love him so much, over the years i thought that i have stopped loving him due to the problems we were having but after what happened it made me realized that i still do.
Hi Joannakate and welcome to the forum. I'm a compulsive gambler myself and it sounds like you did what you had to do. Unfortunatley if he refuses to admit having a problem and/or doesn't accept any help and support available then there's not much you can do for him. You can only look after yourself and your own interests at this time. Don't blame yourself for anything to do with his addiction despite what he may have said, CG's can be master manipulators.
There are others on here that are in a similar position to you who will be able to advise you more on what to do next.
All the best
I mean he does say he has a problem, and I know he struggles himself. The fact that we were having problems in our relationship was not helping him to stop or even control the addiction. I do not want to give up on him because I know that he is stronger to beat this. He went to GA yesterday for the first time, I hope that bill be the encouragmen that he needs in order to stop. I need to know how can I support him,I dont know how to talk to him in a way so he doesnt get offended or upset. I dont want to react the same way I used to because I know it wasnt good for any of us. I need a diffrent approche this time, so I guess I am asking for any advice how to deal with it.
Hello Joannakate and welcome to the forum
It sounds like a very difficult time for you right now you may find it helpful to talk things through with one of our helpline advisor. The freephone helpline contact number is 0808 8020 133 open 8am -midnight you can also contact helpline advisors through the net line http://www.gamcare.org.uk/support-and-counselling/frontline-services/netline .
Please also find some guidelines here for partners family and friends for steps that can help you and your partner. http://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/partners-friends-and-family
Keep posting we are here to support you
Kind Regards
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Hi I am in the same situation. My partner has been gambling I never knew the full extent of it. He has been grumpy, distant and depressed and like a different person. He promised me so many time he would stop but he hasn't made any attempt so I have finally kicked him out. I am devastated but can't do it anymore. I just wish he could see the damage he has done 🙁
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