Hi everyone I am new to this but i will try and explain....My son has had a gambling problem for a few yrs....he also suffers with anxiety and diagonsed with ocd......I manage his money but I get very abusive text when he asks for money for gambling eg £100 at a time.....He doesnt seem happy until he has spent all his money then wants money off me to fund his gambling.....he has loans due to gambling........I really dont know what to do. He spent around £7000 on gambling in less than a year and just doesnt seem to stop......like i say he tells me i am being selfish and hates me when i dont give him his money to gamble as i just cant afford to keep him when he has no money...... Am i right in not giving him money to gamble? He always apologises about an hour later and says hes gonna ring for help but never does.
Hi and welcome..
Give the helpline a call love...they will talk you through ways to help...also look under the family/friend's section on here....sadley you will see lots of stories just like yours....
And you will see your not alone ...good luck x
Hi Gam_Mum
I am a CG and can totally relate to what your son is doing to you. The main thing here is that your son has got to WANT to stop gambling and if he doesn't unfortunately the path of destruction will continue and everything will become 10x worse ! I can't imagine how you feel right now but there is lots of support out there for you and your son, I would start by giving the gamcare helpline a ring. Sorry I haven't been much help but there are many others on here will be.
All the Best
Darren
Hi Gam Mum
Try and think of your son as 2 different people ... one the addict and one your son. Love your son but hate the addict. You know when it is the addict talking to you. You don't have to do what he asks or even answer his calls or texts. As long as you are fuelling his addiction with $$ it will keep going... and get progressively stronger.
As Loxxie says call the helpline... you need some support. An addict (especially a loved one) has the ability to convince us that they are making perfect sense when in fact nothing could be further from the truth. Reach out to Gamcare, GamAnon the forums.
Take Care
Cathyx
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