Finally Came Clean

Hi, well done on coming clean and getting some blocks in place. I would also recommend registering with Gamstop which will block access to any website registered with them and contact your Bank to put a block on gambling transactions on your debit card. If you need any support contact gamcare as they can arrange some counselling, they did this for me and it was really helpful being able to talk to someone who understands and doesn't judge you.

You're right in that it feels like a great weight lifted and I'm glad to hear that your wife is helping you. I was in the same situation as you last summer but with the support of my wife, the blockers in place and the counselling I am now 18 months gamble free. It will be hard for both of you but talk about how you feel and if you have any urges. My wife took a long time to come to terms with the lies and deceit but what helped her was thinking of me having an illness that I am slowly recovering from. I will always be a recovering compulsive gambler but once my secret was out there was no reason to keep chasing the losses to stupidly think I could have that big win to replace all the money I had gambled before I was found out. 

I no longer have access to any of our finances and only have a credit card for spending as you can't use it for gambling. Life is so much better and I am determined to never gamble again.

Well done and good luck. Keep posting as I find it helps to express how I feel both good and bad

All the best

Massive well done to both of you. Takes courage.

Keep going

Seems like you are taking all the right steps for recovery. I think you will succeed. Look not to the past with dread, but look to the future with hope.

Thanks for reaching out. 

I take alot of courage and comfort from your reply and know that im not the only one going through this. 

Sometimes you always feel like your going through this alone so its always nice to hear from others  

Thanks for your advice as well. 

Ive got this 

Well done for telling your wife. I told my husband 10 months ago and its the best thing i have done. I have blocked everything now and i have a Monzo account which blocks gambling and has a daily limit and my husband has his own bank card which i have no access to. Life is SO much better and i have saved a lot over the last 10 months . We have used some money now to go off on short holidays and we are much closer. I am very lucky he has forgiven me 

so today things took a turn for the worse when I was suspended from work due to my gambling issues. 

So today i am 8 days gamble free. Its been a very tough week on both .y wife and i. 

I had told my aunty and uncle who i am very close with and my uncle went through this 2 years ago. 

I know with their support i can do.this and get my life back. 

Well done for hanging in there and getting the support of your family. Every day is a huge step in the right direction so you should be proud you have got through your first week. I can remember the feeling of my first week and it was so hard coping with the emotional upset more than any gambling urges. Take heart from what you have done so far and keep going

All the best

@bladesman i was in the local.shop last night to get gas and was so tempted to buy a scratchcard. Normally wouldn't even have thought about it before because it was the online slots that killed me. 

However i resisted the urge and with the £1 i would have used to get that card i bought a chocolate bar. Definitely a lot more satisfaction from the chocolate. 

Once again thanks for aply to this thread it does give me great hope that i can beat this.