Finding it really hard to deal with the loss

Hi

In my recovery healing my pains and healing my hurt inner child was very important.

The painsn of my past caused fears in me that I did not understand.

You think that loss is painful of the money.

Do you think that going back to gambling was painful.

That working for a long period of time and then giving it away and having nothing to show for your time was in any way painful.

I understood that in time when I went gambling was not only fear filled yet was also very painful.

Recovery starts off with abstaining yet only once we have some time off can we heal our pains and get on with a healthy life.

One of my fears was loss, yet it had very little to do about money it was loss of people that needed ehaling.

Please keep going to meetins that is where healing starts.

Regards Dave L

I am going to give you some tough love because i am not sure anyone else is going too 

Look the money is gone no amount of dwelling or complaining is going to change it

You gambled it because you are a gambling addict 

its like leaving an alcoholic with the keys to the liquor store come back the next day and all the booze is gone

That money was never yours it was the addictions and the games fun coupons 

So now on monday 16th of january 2023 you sit here having to deal with the consequences of your actions , you could spend the day dreaming what could have been 

OR

You can take action to sort your life out......get on every single site your signed up too and complete the self exlusions for 5 years 

Sort your finances out write the debt down , your income start setting up different bank accounts to pay different things 

Go buy yourself  big a5 calendar and a diary and start crossing the days off and journaling how you feel 

Get to 30 days , then 90 , 180 , 360 so forth 

eventually you will realise the money lost doesn't matter at least now you are free from the insanity of the clown world of gambling 

@suckedin well said i was in s similar situation and was told exactly the same money is gone it took me just over a month to accept it i had strong urgues first couple of weeks to win my money back anx then quit i knew deep down it wasent going to happen and i would have lost alot more in the process this is the best advice anyone give you am over 6 weeks gamble free and im doing alot better now

I am 6 days free of gambling 

When I wake up I get really bad stomach pains and bad s***s [withdrawals]

@tazman Unfortunately i have a bad feeling OP isn't listening and is probably already back on the tables

The same username usually pops up at least once a month with a disaster 

@suckedin very common why people end up back in gambling its chasing losses and even when they make it back they can't been in that situation unfortunately most people learn when they hit rock bottom when its too late

it doesnt mater if u lost 1k or 1 million  it can be lost it the same with alot of lottery winner most of these people come from humble backgrounds and cannot manage money they start doing things which they never would have done and end up in even worse situation to begin with, pack it in while u have chance find other ways of making making it will not only kill your finance it will kill your time and even have an affect on your health my new motto quit today and start living today?

Hello,

Sorry I haven’t replied. I am here and haven’t gambled since the huge loss. I am just feeling very depressed. roulette im definitely never playing again as that’s where my huge loss came about up to £49k. I never really played slots so I was really shocked when I won a five figure sum over the Christmas period. I did withdraw and the money sat in my account for a few weeks. I have planned some trips for the year and what to do with the money. But then I lost it all in just a week. I don’t know what the hell I was thinking. This loss has really made me depressed again. I’m going to finally start excluding to all the casinos out there. The problem is im Signed up with so many. I feel like I still can’t bring myself to do it. I haven’t t lost anything of my own money and lost winnings so somehow my mind is telling me you’ve done it before, you can do this again. It next time you win then self exclude. Why did I just not do it when I had the cash in my account and self excluded as a winner. I cannot handle the thoughts but I haven’t gambled since January 3 purely out of disgust for what just happened. Surely it must have been a dream. Everybody dreams of hitting a jackpot well I’ve done it and took a few days to lose it 

@roulettegotme No need to be sorry just read what we are saying that's the important bit

50K is a lot of money and really the operator should have contacted you during the period in which you lost it there is a lot of safeguarding and legislation in place now to stop online bookies from just accepting this level of betting 

Theres a raft of issues that need to be addressed if this is true 

I am not advocating this BUT i have heard stories whereby people in your situation who have lost these massive sums have complained to the operator regarding failure of safeguarding and threats to go public with it and have got refunded 

Yes I understand the issue is I am signed up to too many sites and the loss is spread about more than 10 different sites! I already have limits placed on each site about £2k per site but then once the limit was lost, the other and the other one and the other one…. It is endless. Honestly after this I am really done with gambling. I just cannot take this madness anymore. I did not even get to enjoy my big jackpot win, all I did was distribute it to all of them and gave it all back. I am so disgusted with myself but even though it was winnings I have lost, for the last 2 weeks it’s all I can think about. What could I have done with this money? Honestly drives me mad every second of the day thinking. What a waste. A huge jackpot could have set me up really good and have amazing holidays this year  and it took 3 days to lose it all. The only good thing out of this it was just winnings lost and it made me realise how deeply addicted I am. I am even more determined to face this addiction but it sickens me to the core that I could not stop playing this slot. I was thinking well I won a huge jackpot from a small bet, next thing you knew I was spinning at £30 a spin… took 3 days to lose it all. I am really stupid. I don’t think they will be able to refund me because I had already limits and the loss is spread across many of these sites in total. I hate myself 

@roulettegotme i have the same thoughts i was up both times when i had a relapse i couldnt just stop im having the same problems it been 6 weeks and i must have had over 100 thoughts of just making my money back and quiting i know how it going to happen has it has happened few times before i cannot quit and shouldnt have done it in the first place you have not feed the addiction just like any other addiction it will play with you the longer you fight the easier it gets as from my last relapse i was over 2 years clean it wasent even to win i suffered family truma and made a massive mistake, you cant change the past but u can change future, if u want quit you have work on yourself, their plenty of people who have even won but couldnt quit even when they made their losses back and were in profit they cant all be stupid, if u want to really quit then you have to make an effort to change yourself no point complaining about lossing money