Glad that im not alone..

Hi Chris

like yourself I am at a similar age and and also unsure of how much I have lost and and to be quite honest I don't want to know. I do know I want to get better and these forums really do help, there is a lot of good peopleon here. One gentleman has put it perfectly for me, what is done is done don't dwell on that fact, I couldn't dream of losing my partner and I am using that as power and motivation to save for our future it can be done, don't forget at somepoint this never use to be a issue for us so you know you can do it. All the best and thanks for sharing

Hey James,

Thanks for your post and wise words! I've been reading alot of other treads on the forums and indeed there is very nice people in here, seems like everyone is supporting eachother because we know situation of the other persons, how much there is at stake and how hard it is to quit. I like those forums! Thanks again for motivating me even more, your post really did help.

Here we go again..

I think i might have been gambling free for one month after my post, but it somehow started again. I ended up losing 2000 which was for a deposit to my new apartment. It seems like it is everytime i start to get boring and restless I just cant take my mind off the games and keep having the idea i might hit the jackpot now and then stop afterwards. It is starting to eat me and tear me up inside. Like i can't have fun without gambling, like i can't enjoy anything eventhough im always smiling i feel like s**t. And it is getting worse everytime i start playing, so I guess it is really time for me to get myself together. Hopefully I'll get more far this time.

Hopefully this thread will help me reminding myself the pain im going through everytime i gamble, seems like i keep forgetting the pain everytime i get the urge.

Day: 1 - 7th June 2017

Don't worry! It's really hard to quit specially if it has only been a few weeks or months. Keep on concentrating on getting gambling out of your system!

Thanks for the answer and thoughts Gun_Hjerpe! It is going pretty well so far. Im on day 3 and trying to keep gambling off my mind. I started not trying to analyse and study bets even though i like doing it, since it just reminds me of gambling so instead im trying to occupy my mind with anything else i can come up with. Feeling good so far...

Fighting the battle too, very hard to quit. Your story resonates with me, I'm on day 1 after an £800 loss this month. Time to say enough is enough.

Hey Chris

how are you doing?

I noticed you said you work in a bank, i'm in a similar situation in that i work in debt recovery and regularly assist people in sorting out their finances. Don't beat yourself up about it though, everyone has a life outside of work, doctors smoke, dentists drink fizzy drinks and the police commit crimes!

I'm new to this group so didn't really know how I would be able to help others but what i've learnt really quickly is that whilst you may not automatically be able to help yourself, its a lot easier to lend a helping hand to the other people on here and help each other.

Have you thought of putting any money you save for an apartment in a savings account that is really difficult to get money out, like a fixed term isa or something like that? (obviously be careful because there are fees if you withdraw as you probably know).

One thing that i might try and do and was going to ask for peoples advice on is to save in cash. 99% of my gambling takes place online, i rarely go into a bookies so i was going to get an envelope for each thing i wanted to save for this will:

1. decrease the likelihood of me getting out of bed and driving to my nearest bookies, and this would be impossible anyway when i usually bet late at night.

2. i would physically have to withdraw money and see on the envelope the thing i was saving for, i think this would have a really profound affect on me.

Take Care

Kirsten x

Thank you for the answers Kirsten and Fringe!

It is still going pretty well. I am currently on day 7 which I've been plenty times before but this time i am really feeling it. The hardest part is over but I still know that just the smallest urge can ruin it completely for me and get me back to my rutines. I am still trying to avoid every chance I get to think on playing, trying to see my friends more and just keeping my mind busy. My last couple of months of playing, I didn't really feel the "buzz" feeling i normally felt when i was playing, it was more like an urge persecuted by regrets and losses, not something I want to evolve really.

Im glad both fringe and Kirsten can relate, and i really hope you guys are doing quite well like me. Lets fight this battle together and never forget what pain it brings to us everytime we play. Thank you for the long and open post Kirsten and the good advices.

Hi both glad to hear you are still gamble free, I almost came here saying I'm back to day 1 after resisting a strong urge today. 7 days is great, I'm on day 5 which is good for me. I still feel the urge but determined to beat this, take care. I'll post again tmw as its helping.

Day 14 right now, still going strong. The latest couple of days have been quite easy, although my girlfriend has been away visting her parents, which normally gives me more time for myself and therefore gambling time. Not this time though. I am currently on day 14, and feeling pretty good, starting to feel the extra amount of money I have. Hoping this will continue. Good luck to everyone.

This forum has really helped me to deal with the strong urges today. Thank you, now 8 days GF.