Hi I am new here. I am feeling very low for a number of reasons and have just spent my last 60.00 on slots. My husband would be devastated, angry and let down by my actions. I cannot believe that I have been taken in by gambling. Have lost my senses and thought I could win some money yet again. What a fool. No bus fare for work tomorrow and have spent more on my credit card than what he thinks. He deserves so much better. Thought I could fight the urge on my own and have read this forum but never posted on it before. I had my credit card paid off 2 weeks ago but now owe 1000+ . got a tax return of 800 and spent that aswell a week ago. How do I move forward and stop beating myself up? Not sleeping very well with the guilt. Thank you
To suggest your husband deserves better is merely wrong - the gambling addiction isn't your fault. Be honest with him and he'll support you.
I'd suggest either one to one counselling or group sessions which are advertised on here on the links to the left.
The first step I found is by telling someone I'm a gambling addict and saying the words out loud. The rest will take time. Won't be easy but worth it in the end.
Things can always be worse.
Adam.
Good morning Rose
Firstly a real well done for finding the strength to post and admitting that there is a problem there that in itself takes great courage as so many think about it and don't do it and many I guess go back to gambling, taking these 1st steps will allow you to start your recovery, as you have read the forum before you will see your not alone with your problem it affects many all in similar ways the help support and advice is what you need right now we all understand what your goin through
Your losses you mentioned are understandably hurting you right now and the urge will still be there to try and recover those losses its really important to accept these the reality is the money is gone and won't be coming back believe me when I can say it could be much worse gambling can and will take much more than money from us it changes us in to people we don't recognize anymore
So again another well done forrealising at such an early stage myself it took 26 years before I admitted my problem and its taken me over 2 years to start to turn my life around goin through a few relapses along the way its important never to give up and keep trying
This is a fantastic forum that has everything you need to start to move forward in your life again well done for taking those 1st steps
I wish you all the best
Castle2
I'm in similar situation an feel so bad have you managed to tell your partner? I want to tell mine about the debts he doesn't know about an the bills I've not paid just scared but
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