hello, in the past year i have learnt only by chance that my partner has a gambling problem... i cam across the realization when i was sorting through some draws at home and saw my partners monthly statements showing endless outings for mobile gambling sites ranging from £300 to £1000! we have a young son together only aged 5 months and at the time of finding out he was new born so had all my hormones, sleep deprivation and adjusting to motherhood etc as well as coming across his gambling problem to deal with! i didn't know who to turn to i'm not one for confronting and am easy going, i plucked up the courage to speak with him about it and he said it was only now and then and will stop, i then looked at some statements a little while later after he said this and still no difference maybe not as much but still doing it, i don't know what to do anymore i'm on maternity leave and don't get much for it, looked at my hours i will have to work just to get by and looks like i'll be missing out on seeing my son most the week when i am due to go back. i have given him most of my savings thinking i was helping his with bills and paying for pretty much everything (still am) unaware at the time it wasn't debts he was struggling with just wasting his money in total he had spent over £8,000 last year. i have tried talking to him again he even says he has a problem i just don't know how to go about it anymore i'm looking at working at night just so i have enough money to go out with my son and i feel sorry for my partner as he works really hard and has nothing to show for it as he wastes it and worse doesn't realize how much he is spending as doesn't keep track! i know there are people worse off than me so feel lucky it isn't so bad but i had this experience with my dad and we lost everything and i don't want that for my son!
was hoping if anyone has been or is in this situation, how i can encourage him to stop or realize? 🙂
P.s. sorry for essay
thank you for your advice H-L 🙂 he has arranged for his wages to go in my bank and i give him a set about to cover his bills and some spending money, i still pay for most of bills hoping to help him out but when i take a sneak peak at his mini statement i still see he is having the odd gamble (not as bad as before but sometime builds up again) so was thinking maybe not put as much over and then he might see he has not much money and hopefully stop? when i come to going back to work my wages will definitely not be able to cover bills etc so will have to rely on him! do you think i should suggest i take complete control of his bills and money and give him an allowance?
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