Help me !!!!

Hi Deano,

I did online gambling, it was just so easy.

I'm not sure it is true that all is not lost, my husband and i are like strangers, we barely talk and tonight i tried to take an overdose, i have no one to turn to anymore.

I think it would be better for everyone around me if i'd succeeded.

Hi Mrspuzzled.

I hope you will stay on the forum because you have people here who will help and not judge you

Please ring gamcare as many times as you like because their one to one voice is very helpful.

This is also about issues deep within the soul. Please please have a chat with the doctor because they can really help

I promise you that there will be a time in your future when you feel serene. That is because you will have found out what was making you unhappy and you will have stopped gambling completely. Depression does lead to escape gambling. If you feel isolated and the world is against you it does cause escape gambling as you seek highs in the brain.

People here do care about you! Its just that you are not thinking straight and gambling makes it all much worse

I wont go on now but you will learn about all the reasons people gamble and ignore reality.

The dark fog lifts so please act on all the help and advice we can give

Best wishes from everyone on the forum

Mrs Puzzle it can seem that all is lost but it's certainly not with help and support things can get better. Give Gamcare a call and talk to them or come and join us in Gamcare chat

http://www.gamcare.org.uk/chat

Hi Mrs puzzled

I once thought that the earth would be a better place without me but I soon see sense and sorted myself out , all is not lost trust me . Just knuckle down get urself the help u need and make urself busy with friends family or a hobby ! Don't give in to this disease u will come out stronger I promise u !

Oh Mrs P I'm positive people would be devastated if anything had happened to you. All is not lost as it seems at this moment in time. Your husband will probably find it hard to understand why it has such a grip on you. Do you think he would sit with you and talk openly and honestly about the situation and plan a way of moving forward to support you. It is support and advice you need at this moment. Everyone here will give you that support and advice Mrs P, everyone is on your side. Take some time to read through some stories as there is people who have felt like you and have been able to come out the other end. Phone gamcare as soon as you can to talk to an advisor. Please dont do this to yourself and your children, keep posting, keep in touch. Take care. Wcid x

Can only echo what's already been said, honest advice has been said which does help when you put your mind to it.

You can put your mind to it.

I'm positive your husband will understand if you open up to him and explain all that your going through.

I think initially you need to seek the understanding voice that is at the end of the phone in Gamcare, further down the road counselling and/or GA meeeting(s).

But firstly do NOT do anything silly, you owe it to yourself and your family to see this difficult time through, not being here would only make matters worse.

Nothing is more important than you and your families health.

I wish you well, and hope you seek the help that is there for you.

Dear mrspuzzled,

We are all concerned about you. It can be tough,especially when your relationship is in difficulties and you think you have nowhere to turn to and that no one understands. As a lot of people here already mentioned, give us a call on 0808 8020133 and you can talk your feelings through with an advisor in private. You will find that there is much support available for you, that there is someone who listens and that there is a way forward. If you find it easier to connect online and chat there, you can also try our internet based NetLine http://www.gamcare.org.uk/support-and-counselling/frontline-services/netline. Both services are open from 8 am to midnight every day.

You said that you have tried to take an overdose tonight and haven't succeeded. When you feel very low and suicidal, the Samaritans are great to talk to. 116 123 (UK) They are there for you 24 hours a day.

You can make changes, it may not be easy and it may not happen from one day to the next, but you say that you want to stop gambling and you can do that. If you talk to an advisor, you will find that there are strategies and support agencies which can make stopping easier and more realistic for you.

Think about what you still have, instead of what you have lost. Count what there is, your children, your life, you. And I am certain that you will find more that you value. You have reached out to us here, which is a great first step. Everyone who has responded on this thread has heard you. Keep reaching out, you will find someone there...

With warm wishes

Gabriele

Hi Mrs P,

I too have joined this evening as it has finally dawned on me that I have an issue. I have been making excuses for weeks now as my addiction has got worse and worse.

Now I have self excluded and have admitted to my partner that I have a problem. I have also admitted that I have been lying saying that I have been working late when I really have been at the local casino losing too much money.

Now I feel a weight lifted and realise that I have some tough times ahead.

This is the reason I have joined here, to find the support I need. I am sure you too can find the support here to get through things. Hopefully we both look back on this in the months to come and realise that we have stopped and we and our families are better for it.

Hi Mrs P how are you doing today. Wcid.

Hi everyone,

Thank you for all the supportive comments, i am still here and still trying to figure things out, i just want to give my family a better life and thought that doing what i was trying to do last night was the right thing to do, my husband stopped me, i am sort of glad he did, it just seems a real struggle.

My husband has installed some k9 thing on my laptop, which i take to work with me as i work nights.

I want to do this exclusion thing but not sure how to go about it, well i'm not sure i need to since i gave my husband my log in details and he changed the passwords on them.

mrsp.

Good to see your making steps to stop gambling mrs puzzled.

I see your vice was online gambling, I share deans' view, you must self exclude from all your accounts, nip it in the bud.

Can I suggest a step further ? Cut up your credit and debit cards and report them to your banks as damaged, they will send you replacements, but this ensures the cards are cancelled and cannot be used again, some online gambling sites save your card details, this is why I suggest this.

So you have the double saftey net of self excluding and having no means of funding further online gambling.

When the new cards come, ensure your husband takes control of them, again this removes any temptation.

These are the first and most immediate steps IMO.

Take my word for it, any debt racked up due to gambling WILL reduce whilst not gambling, if you continue to gamble debt (if any of course) will increase.

I hope you also seek counselling or explore the avenue that is GA meetings, they may not be for you, but try them and see.

I wish you well.

Hello mrspuzzled,

Well done for returning to the forum today.

If someone takes a drug in an attempt to overdose, they should obtain immediate medical attention in order to reduce the risk of harm as much as possible. You've posted that your husband stopped you from taking an overdose; it is good that you had that support at home. Please talk with your GP about the suicidal feelings that you had, so that your doctor can support your well-being locally.

You're welcome to call a GamCare adviser on our freephone 0808 8020 133, if you'd like to find out more about the free GamCare counselling appointments services available in many parts of Britain.

Take care,

Forum Admin.

I have made an appointment to go see my gp on Monday and filled in an online form for a GA place in my area, just waiting for them to get back in touch with me.

I think i will sort out my bank and credit cards asap, this is a very good idea.

I have decided to take up knitting again, to see if i can gain my interest back, i used to love it, now i know i'm not great at it, but i enjoyed making things.

mrsp.

Hi Mrs P so pleased to hear you talking more positive about things and taking steps to get help. Take care Wcid.