Hi everyone for last 2 years my gambling has got worse I got a lot of debt an went on dmp stopped for few weeks. But now I've taken on more debt that my partner doesn't know about through gambling do I tell him so ashamed feel like ending it all got no one to talk too
Hi sez i think you should tell your partner how you are feeling and what your going through a problem shared is a problem halved.
You've got lots of support on here from like minded people at different stages of recovery.
Hope your ok and chin up.
Ste26
Thanks for your reply. Just worried if I tell him he said he would leave next time. So don't know what to do
It's best out in the open whatever the outcome if you ask me because it will just eat away at you and you will feel worse also it will probably lead you to gamble again to win so you don't have to tell him and we all know where that will get you.
Good look I'm sure you will do the right thing I was in your shoes last week.
Ste26
Yes that's true it's eating away at me feel so bad an I'm thinking bout trying to win more on payday. There is never a right time to tell him but I need to before he finds out. How did it go for you? Thankyou
It went ok considering it was the third or fourth time well she hasn't kicked me out anyway we are working through it she's been really supportive. Trying to win money back on payday will be catastrophic you will lose and be in a bigger hole dont do it.
Good luck..... Ste26
Hi sez
I know things are tough right now but believe me they do get better once you stop. I spent years and years gambling everything and only 87 days ago I realised that I had a major problem and I needed to stop. I came clean to my boyfriend (not the money that was involved) and I felt better straight away. I think once you say it out loud it stops being so frightening. So we have a problem/addiction with gambling but we will do something about it. we will not carry on anymore. enough is enough.
You will not win your losses back- that is a fact. Even if you won something on payday how soon would it be lost? Not long I imagine. Winning is our poison as it just leads to more losses and losses leads to chasing which leads to even more losses.
It will always end in losing so stop now. However you can just dont give them b******s another penny. You deserve a life without gambling and right now you can give it to yourself. Forget whats happened before- start now - clean the slate. If there are any debts they can be dealt with over time.
This can be your new life if you want it enough. Start a diary here and post every day because its as good or dare I say sometimes even better than having someone to talk to. There is some great support and you will see after only a few days how much better your life can be.
All the best
Linda
Thanks ste26 glad it went well for you. Yes your right even If I do win it back i will probably end up in worse position my head is such a mess at the min think I'm gona have to tell him before I lose it Thanks a lot
Hi Linda thanks for your reply it's all true what your saying done it before but still in my head lost Sooo much but like you said if I carry on will just lose more hopefully will stop not gambled since last Friday but only cause I've had no money to. I've got 3children an I need to start putting them first thank you
hi sez
I have 2 kids and there will never ever be a better reason to stop gambling than for our kids. Not because of having extra money though that is nice but to be a parent that does not have mood swings depending on whether we have won or lost (speaking from my own experience here) and to be a role model so that when our kids grow up they dont see gambling as something that is worth doing.
I stopped gambling mainly for my children as they are the most important to me and I lost that in the last couple of years. I really am feeling the benefits now of having more time (not staring at a screen for hours while they get on with it) and also thinking more about family instead of chucking another few quid down the gambling industry's pocket. Crazy isnt it how our priorities can get so messed up from being in the clutches of this evil addiction!
I wish you all the best and one day at a time the fog will lift and it really is an awesome feeling.
Linda
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