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Hi Gmac

Welcome to the forum and as I've said to many that's one of the hardest thing you've had to do upto now posting on here !

Unfortunately we don't think about our kids or loved ones whilst we are gambling, they are put to the back of our minds whilst we fill our addiction. Like yourself I kept telling myself I had to stop or I would end up losing my wife and kids and guess what ? I've lost my wife and kids and have being living apart for the last 8 weeks and this has absolutely broke my heart not seeing them all on a daily basis, all because I wasn't man enough to reach out and ask for help instead my wife found out everything which has made things a lot worst. I don't know if you have a partner or anything but I would definitely be letting as many people as possible know about your situation and how you are feeling, I'm not going to lie things are very hard in the early days but do get gradually better. Give the gamcare helpline a ring as it's very helpful and more importantly you can beat this addiction but you have to WANT to stop !! Hope you get sorted and I shall look out for future posts.

"It's good to talk and take it one day at a time"

All the Best

Darren

Hello Daren. Thank u so much for the reply. I bought me to tears. I have never told anyone in all the years I have been doing it. One day I hope to have the courage to tell my husband. I am so sorry for what u are going though. I hope u find the strength to beat this pure evil addiction. Good luck Daren and thanks again for your words. Gemma

Hi Gemma
Our life with this addiction seem very similar. I am now 2 weeks free after a relapse and even though some days are hard, I feel so much better for stopping

Hello katiecoo. It's bloody horrible, I can't believe it can take over your life. Two weeks is great, keep it up. I hope I can do it. Day one is nearly over (yay me)

Hi Gemma

Hope you managed to get through yesterday without gambling and today is day 2 !! It's very hard in these early days when we are not gambling as we seem to have so much spare time now we are not gambling and this is one thing that's hard is filling this time by doing stuff so we don't go back gambling !! I would definitely consider telling your husband sooner rather than later, he will be very angry no doubt but hopefully he will be able to help you on this long road to recovery. I was very embarrassed and ashamed telling people about my situation but I don't think twice about mentioning it to people now. Good luck and I will look out for future updates.

"It's good to talk and take it one day at a time"

Darren

Hi Gemma. You sound so much like me, your first post so similar to mine I made on friday. I am on day 4 no gambling, but already getting urges. Hubby doesn't know, he thought I had beaten it last year. Feel completely alone and like you have so much to be thankful for so dont understand why the **** I do it.

Wishing you the very best, am going to start a diary later when more time. Homework with kiddies beckons. Take care x x

Welcome Gemma,

How are you getting on? Have you thought of joining the Chatroom? It's great with daily motivation.

Have you taken any practical measures to stop you from physically being able to gamble?

Take care

I felt obliged to look up your thread and reply. I read your comments on other threads about being too ashamed to tell anyone. It's having someone know what you're going through that makes you determined to prove to them that you are going to stop. You can't really describe the relief you feel after telling someone. The weight is lifted off you, the crushing burden of what you've done in the past is lifted and you can breathe again. You can sleep better knowing help is at hand. You can start to get your life back on track again. Go speak to someone, even your doctor.

You CAN do it!