Hi il first introduce myself, my names Jake. Iv got a great life, house, Mrs and loving family and gambling is ruining everything for me. Iv been gambling about 13 years, it’s now gotten severe. I banned myself on Gamstop for 5 years (2 left) but have been using friends accounts since. Things got worse the past few months where I opened accounts on foreign sites where you can use bitcoin to bet so don’t have to go through kyc checks which enabled me to access bets with no limits.Â
I recently started my own business last year and have been taking money out the business to bet with, getting myself in debt with suppliers, it’s left me in a total mess im completely ashamed off myself. Iv get debts coming out of my eyeballs. Iv been hiding the betting from my fiancé although she knows Iv been struggling secretly but this past week a comment got bought up by one of my friends which has caused the Mrs to find out to some degree Iv been betting again.
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this brings me back to gamcare. For the first time in my life Iv come clean. Iv had a breakdown today in tears unable to breath and told my Mrs Iv been struggling and been betting all the time. The reason I didn’t tell her was I thought she would up and leave. We’re getting married next year so was scared to tell her so instead confided in my friends who have bought up a comment which she got wind of. Now it’s out in the open and she knows about it I’m hoping this give me the kick up the backside I need. Iv closed my crypto accounts and casino account and now it’s out in the open and I’m not hiding it I’m hoping this gives me the determination and help I need. The Mrs couldn’t be more supportive, she’s told me she will never leave me over this and that no one’s perfect but she is she never does anything bad to me and I feel like Iv just let her down.Â
it’s make or break for me now, this is the only thing Iv ever been addicted to and I can feel the fire inside me now to beat this horrible addiction for my sake and the Mrs.Â
any advice would be welcomed aswell as any criticism as I probably deserve it.
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sorry for the essay I just needed to get his off my chest
Hi Jake,
I’ve noticed a common consistency between all us fellow compulsive gamblers….. the feeling we deserved to be punished!Â
This sounds cliche, but if you haven’t done so already, pop along to your local GA meeting. I was terrified when I attended my first one a few weeks back, but it’s honestly the best thing I done in a while.
All the bestÂ
Hi I'm jade. My partner has found out about my gambling 2 in the last 6 months I said I would stop then last week he caught me again and has left me. Like you I feel this is the kick up the behind I need. I broke down and told my sister and my daughter they have been really supportive. My partner has said he will only come back if I get myself properly sorted. Its only been 4days that I haven't gambled but I'm proud of myself. I have my first ga meeting tonight and I'm really nervous. I wish you all the best and know you have got this. We are all here to support each other. Stay strong ?.Â
@vge5rb460o I agree, that’s how I feel. Thank you I will look in to it
@jadeygirl hi Jade I think when people haven’t gambled before or been addicted to it it’s hard for them to understand how hard it is for people like us. You should be proud of yourself that you are doing something about it. 4 days may not seem like much but it’s 4 days on the right track. Mines only a day so far but I feel like my mind set is different than other times Iv tried to quit. Iv been a lot more productive at work today as Iv not once been on my phone to bet and feeling better already. I’m gutted about the amount of money Iv lost over the past and always thinking ‘what if’ with the money I could have saved up. Luckily Iv got a good job and easy access to getting paid quickly so being skint shouldn’t last long but this has been one of the problems as having earning money quickly it’s easier to just lose it quickly. I hope this is it now for us both and we can beat this. You’ve got this jade! We both have
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@jake92 hi jake thank you for your lovely message. I went to my first ga meeting last night. I cried the whole way through. The people are such lovely people and we're so supportive of me. I feel so different today. They really opened my eyes to lots of things. My ex is coming to see me today I'm hoping I can show him all the things I'm doing are all the right things. You've got this jake. I'll be here supporting you the whole way we got this xx
That’s amazing jade, that’s a massive step you’ve took and I’m sure your ex will think about the step you’ve took, I don’t think there’s a much bigger step than having the courage go to a meeting. I’m looking at going myself, Iv made little step so far like not even watching football and stuff and just keeping my mind occupied with other things. I feel great so far no urges to gamble but it’s still early days. I just feel a lot more dedicated to not gambling this time. I really hope you manage to smooth things out with your ex, with their support it will be even easier for you but regardless you have got this anyway! Well done
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