Hi All,
so I’ve messed up again. I previously stopped for a few months and felt great. Pressure at work and moving in with my missus and getting a mortgage have really got to me. So we’re moving House very soon and I’m meant to have all the money for a deposit. I looked recently and realised over the last few months I have slowly used some of it to gamble. I’m now about £4K short, with no way of replacing. I turned to gambling in hope I could have a little win and get it to a more manageable level. Needless to say all I did was make things worse. I’m now £6K short and unable to speak to anyone. If I tell my partner it will crush her... I’ve been so ridiculously stupid. I feel I have no where to turn...
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Hi Shaun as said before, you need to tell her. She's going to find out soon enough. What happened to GA? So now you're under more pressure, how did gambling help? If you really want to stop you'll take the advice. You're never going to win it back.
Hi shaun
The urges might be there to gamble but just think if you win back half of that brilliant you'll still be 3k down. However you take that risk you could end up 10k down its gojng to take you even longer to earn it back you'll be in a much worse place.
My advice as hard as it will be tell her sooner rather than later she may be angry but you can put a plan in place and eventually even though it may take longer you can have that house.
Good luck!
Hello Shaun,
I know it feels hard to talk to family about our gambling issues. If you look around this site you often find people are much more understanding than anyone ever thinks possible. You are backing yourself into a corner if you keep gambling. I've been there thinking if i can make X amount i can hide it. It never works out. If we win we carry on til we lose. If we lose we become even more desprate.
I think it will really help you try kick on with beating this if you can just talk it out. I know you said GA meetings are hard for you to get to and its the same to me. Phone the gamcare number and look into counselling. I managed to get 12x 1 hour sessions (once a week) over the phone at a time that worked for me.
Its a VERY tough battle alone, but you dont need to face it alone. Start with giving gamcare a call and work the rest out from there.
All the best
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