New to this and I'm in such a bad place it's unreal

Brads, relax and breathe, don't do anything silly because I promise you things can get better. Money is just ammo for the next bet and will build up again as soon as you stop. When you suffer big losses all they do is keep you looking backwards, keep you living in the past of 'what have I done, if only I didn't do that, or if only I'd pressed collect'. You need to look forwards, what's done is done and write it off. Try and go to a GA meeting because you'll find people there that understand you and the feelings you're going through. Don't give up mate, the future can be do different if you get some help.

Thanks for the reply. It gets me so depressed I'm addicted to losing and I can't See a way out

To be honest mate I think you need to contact Gamcare or even the Samaritans asap. I don't think you really want to die but please talk to someone.

I couldn't do it I triednonce but I never would do it. I jus keep messing up. I work everywhere driving to jobs and then there is always a bookies next to where I get f**s wherever I get them n then bang .

Hello brad87,

Don't feel bad. We are all our own worst critics and usually find it hard to forgive our own self, more so then other people who readily forgive us. Over time, when you have abstained from gambling, you too will learn to forgive yourself as well.

Be vigilent though, and don't get relaxed that you have beaten this addiction, as this disease requires you to be on gaurd for another rush.

I am here suffering with the same pain brad87.

I am hoping for your success.

Regards,

AM

The bookies is your trouble? Mine was mostly online but it's all the same at the end of the day. Right Brads, you need to do the opposite of what you normally do. You want to fight this? You want to stop this? Find out what you need but I think you need a passport photo, take it to the bookies and they can ban you from most/all of their shops. Get a cash only card for your bank, and get the bank to reduce your daily limit to a hundred quid, then if you slip the damage will be reduced. You need to start helping yourself, nobody will do this for you, we can all listen to you and understand your feelings and why you do it but you have to do something to get your life back. It won't be easy but it will be easier than a life of gambling and misery. You can do this.

Thank you for you're replys I have come clean to my wife well partly was caught out but I owned up straight away which I don't usually do . I've bin kicked out but I think it's more to make me realise the severity of what its done again. She is supporting me on the phone and is there for me 100% I'm still going to my sons football tomorrow and my mum is going to the doctors with me today. I'm 28 and feel like a child but thus is leading to all sorts of troubles to the point I'm afraid of what my next actions will be . I've got so much anger and I'm afraid who will end up on the receiving end if it if it isn't channeled correctly. I'm going to a meeting Monday and I'm dreading it but its all a start

I'm 43 and yes I feel like a child, my mum keeps my cash card, my mum always checks my gamblocks working, but if I'm left to my own devices I'm dangerous. Anger? I was so angry i came so close to getting a flight to Gibraltar, I had the address of an online gaming company and I was going to go there and smash the place up to stop them operating, but at the end of the day I was doing this to myself, I was sick and powerless over gambling. This is not the real you, it's the addiction and when you abstain from gambling for just 30 days you will think and feel different. I know guys that got chucked out by partners, within months they were back on the sofa, then back in the same bed. You have a choice now, get help and do your best to stop, or keep on the rollacoatser of pain. Balance is what you aim for, not big ups and downs, real life can be boring so fill the old gambling time with positive things and keep busy, you'll be surprised how much time you spent gambling and that time was wasted. You're not alone, there's a lot of us who have messed up but you can rebuild.

Hi Brads87,

You've done the right thing on here by seeking help.

My advice is to simply take one day at a time. It can seem daunting looking ahead and thinking about debt and not gambling. Breaking things down into smaller chunks helps. I tell myself that today I will not gamble and it's been a week.

You need to stop the opportunity you have to gamble. If that means leaving the house with just a tenner each day then so be it.

Debts to companies don't matter in the grand scheme of things, after all they can't get blood from a stone as the saying goes. The best thing is to come clean with them and try to meet them halfway.

Good luck mate.

Jus got back from a&e and got referred to my go again . I've told them I need to see a permanent doctor not a temp. Thanks for you're input I'm so mentally drained its unreal

Hi Brads,

Just read through these posts. They all offer excellent advice.

Being a CG is severely mentally draining. Theres no doubt. I've been where you are and worse and that's the truth. I'll not go into detail here. The one thing I can say is you can turn your life around and become a "changed person". From what you are saying it seems that professional help is at hand so take it and you will improve slowly but surely. I've done it and so can you.

What scothed states about debts to companies is true. Don't sweat that too much. People owe zillions nowadays. I do and I don't give a d**n about banks etc. If you can only offer them £1 per month they'll have to accept it. Get the interest frozen. Contact national helpline for assistance or Stepchange.

Remember you CAN AND WILL TURN THINGS AROUND WITH THE RIGHT GUIDANCE.

Bye For Now and Best Wishes.

Thanks!!

Finding today hard homing to see my wife. Feel so guilty

HiBrads87

Guilt is good! You know you've stuffed up and are suffering as a result. Better that you feel guilty rather than not being remorseful.

Don't worry about your meeting tomorrow. They will surprise you. They will welcome you. They will NOT judge you, just as we don't judge you. They know what you are going thru because they have all been thru similar situations, as have we.

Best wishes