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Hi tilly thankyou for the post on my page. I totally understand about waiting for your wage to go in bank done that many a time, how foolish. You have done amazing already so keep going. hun x

Hi Tilly

Read your story I see a mirror reflection off how I was and how I'm becoming pleased to see you have blocks in place leave cards with your partner just take what you need I.e. At work enough for a cuppa or a choccy bar, produce receipts to proof what you've spent it worked for me and will again. Here to support you if you ever feel the urge aswell as other members

Koliver

Thank you to all that have posted for your comments. I feel that the recovery is being aided by the fact that I WANT to stop, not just another month of losing money and feeling low. Month on month once all my money has gone I have said "that is it I'm going to stop". However, a few days before the next payday the little voice used to come into my head saying "just one more bet".......well no more bets for me and no more little voices.......just my voice saying "no".....now 40 days gf and feeling so much better in myself. I feel very strong but I will not become complacent.

Hi Tilly..... Well done on the 40 days!! Your doing really well

Tilly well done on your 40 days gf that's brilliant. I totally understand about wanting to stop that's exactly how I feel this time I'm so determined and my Ga meeting can't come soon enough. In the mean time I keep coming here to read other people's stories and advice which helps so much xx

HI Tilly, fantastic achievement 42 days, well done! Gambling is a mugs game, we know it, but it still draws us in. It is difficult for our loved ones to understand the lure of it all, and I find it difficult to explain but that is addiction for you. Having you Mum there to support you is great. Perhaps if your partner read some of the diaries on here he would begin to have some understanding? My husband has worked with gamblers and alcholics and has a fair idea however, it is me who brings the subject up of my addiction or it would never get talked about.

Anyhow, my love, well done on 42 days and here's to the rest of your recovery xx

43 days!! Well done Tilly.... Smashing it!!

Thanks all for your comments.

Well, just turned 40 yesterday and had a lovely weekend away. I have grabbed my chances of talking to my oh when possible and although he really doesn't understand we managed to talk more about gambling than we have done previously.

Still no desire to gamble and feeling really positive.

Hello, Tilly,

Saw your post about the emails - they have tipped people over the edge and you're right, the companies shouldn't be sending them to people who have SE. Deleting them solves the immediate problem but what about next time? Or when the SE ends?

Can your OH or your mother contact the companies for you and threaten to report them to the Gambling Commission? Better not to do it yourself.

When we did SE, we did it by snail mail, quoting name, address, account number, date of birth, asking for permenent self exclusion and no more contact by any means. I wrote the letters and he signed. So far, we've not had any contact. You might consider snail mail but again, get someone else to get the addresses.

Hope this helps.

CW

Hi CW,

That's a good idea. I will certainly take that on board. My oh is aware of the emails that I got as we were away and I told him so I feel that he would help me with this.

Thanks for your advice.

Hi Tilly, belated birthday wishes. Glad you had a nice weekend and time to chat with OH.

Take care and wishing you well in your recovery xx​

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Thanks Annie.

So now at 46 days gf. To anybody reading this I would highly recommend the chatroom that is open between 8pm-9pm each evening. There is so much help and support available to all and everybody is really friendly. I also find posting on a weekly basis of how many days I have been gf in the overcoming gambling forum on thee 2016 gf thread. As this clocks up its nice to see how well I'm doing.

To all those who cannot stop thinking about their next bet remember this.....casinos, bookies, online gaming.......they're all businesses out there to make money. If they paid out big wins all the time they would go bust......how many of these do you know that have gone bust? They will just keep taking.

Take care and stay strong.....don't listen to the voice it's a pain in the a**e and like any pain it does go away eventually xx

Hi tilly xx 46 days gf well done hunni you are doing brilliant sorry wasn't in chat long tonight oh wanted feeding will be off chat this week bk on night tomorrow but off from Saturday for a week which will be a real test but got lots to keep me busy anyhow you take care xxx

Glad you had a nice weekend ...and well done on the days gf...good on you xxx