realistic thinking is what i need..i expect this to go away very soon.i know its going to be a battle for prb rest of my life..coming to terms with that is the hardest.
ive decided to write what gambling has took from meover 12 yrs
,every day im going to read this.
Almost every penny ive worked hard for .(including 92k of debt)and every wage.
my self respect and self worth.
respect from family .
ruined my marriage.
ruined my husbands life.
trust..none trusts me anymore.
confidence..is zilch
social life (zilch)
im now not only a cg but also a compulsive liar.
now suffering with depression ,anxiety and panic.
most of all it has taken away the real me i want back so much .i want to be happy feel normal again.
Letting hubby control finances is good. Blocking software to all your devices is important. Close accounts & self exclude. Attend GA. Good counselling. You always found time to gamble so im sure you can find time to do these things. Take a look @ my thread in overcoming section entitled thoughts i think you will find some identification there
hubby controls every penny until pay day he takes what i owe out and i have the rest(still usually a fair amount).i dont gamble online due to having no debit account(just a basic acc) .nearest GA is chester which is too far until car fixed even then its almost an hour each way.there is one in manchester im not sure i want to go one so close to home.yes il look at ur thread too thanks
i couldve wrote that thread myself day!
So hows it gone today Michelle. Have you managed to put any barriers in place to help you come payday?
without the gambling.........the lies are no longer needed...........so they go too....
the debt starts to actually be paid off.......... and with that comes a weight slowly lifted....
which brings a fresh motivation and spring in your step.....that makes it ultimately easier to connect with others....
and rebuild your life.............
i find doing a kind deed with a little money or simply your time makes a huge difference........
and as for long hair........i see that as a status of importance in a woman - so the longer the better.....
i have been treating myself to once a week a tesco finest range meal or steak or fish etc.... just a little treat to remind me how good it is not to gamble....
Remember every penny is still yours just being safely held to avoid it being gambled....
but don't be afriad to spend a little to reward yourself and your family of the abstance of gambling in your new life.
Wayne (LEST-WE-FORGET) DAY 16 GAMBLE FREE
Hi day,wayne,i havent gambled as ive been busy working so day 4 today gamble free.thurs is pay day but ive allready made plans to go out ,,work in the day and meal at night.(i will do everything to keep me from gambling).even if it means woeking every day lol.how are u both ?
lest we forget ......dont blame u enjoying ur tesco finest ,16 days well done you
nice one keeping occupied x
I been working 6 days week too .... the less time on my hands the better i reckon lol
lets keep this going..........
i even spend a good hour cooking each night to keep me busy even if eating alone lol
made enough for four tonight lol
LEST-WE-FORGET wrote:
without the gambling.........the lies are no longer needed...........so they go too....
the debt starts to actually be paid off.......... and with that comes a weight slowly lifted....
which brings a fresh motivation and spring in your step.....that makes it ultimately easier to connect with others....
and rebuild your life.............
i find doing a kind deed with a little money or simply your time makes a huge difference........
and as for long hair........i see that as a status of importance in a woman - so the longer the better.....
i have been treating myself to once a week a tesco finest range meal or steak or fish etc.... just a little treat to remind me how good it is not to gamble....
Remember every penny is still yours just being safely held to avoid it being gambled....
but don't be afriad to spend a little to reward yourself and your family of the abstance of gambling in your new life.
Wayne (LEST-WE-FORGET) DAY 16 GAMBLE FREE
This is so true, I used to lie to family and friends when I was gambling, such as can't afford it or sorry can't make it tonight, because I wanted to gamble instead.
Debts run up, largely due to gambling.
Once the gambling stopped, I had money and focused on debt clearance and treated myself, while in general cutting back on spending to just the odd treat.
Once the debt goes down, you realise just how much money you are wasting on gambling and it will be more than you realise.
No money and lots of debt leads to stress and cutting out gambling most definitely cures those things.
Im now debt free have more money then I've ever had and looking back shudder at how close I was to ruining the rest of my life.
thanks for ur comments steve,,firstly brilliant news well done you.yes i agree gambling causes a multitude of miseries.day 5 for me
and 16 days for lest we forget so well done to him too,,just need to teach him how to cook for one now ha
ha ha - i can cook for one but the flavours always better when i cook for my three imaginary friends.... 🙂
gulps,,,i only have two lol
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