108 days gf and relapsed 3 days ago

Firstly, very well done for doing 108 days! 👏👏. When you think of it in terms of "day at a time", that is commendable. Don't beat yourself up about it but instead, try and change your mindset, think positively and just get back on that treadmill.  Take care and look after yourself.

Pink Lady.

Hi there. Be proud of yourself for those 108 days you can reset and go on to even better times and live your life the way we all should

Make sure to have triple lock verification on your money cards get exercise in everyday use deep breathing techniques plus find someone to help out who is struggling in life even more

We have to keep growing ourselves or we go into a spiral

  bedt

Hi

Those 108 days can not be lost.

No one can take those days away from you.

At one time over 30 years ago I was clean for 11 months and two weeks and went back to gambling.

The reason I went back was I was scared of facing the people in the meeting when I would have got one year clean.

No matter when your last bet was keep going to meetings.

Thank you for being honest, that honesty will be your strength in future days.

It took me over twenty years to fully understand what a healthy recovery was for me.

First it was about abstaining and then in time mking healthier choices a day ata time.

They say it was slow baby steps.

Look after your self.

Dave L 

Supporting the previous comment. You really have to be proud that you reached 108 days and might be a good idea to set up a milestones towards reaching another days count. Not sure if you have shared your concern with anyone, but I have resently opened to one of my friend and we have installed a parental control app and gamban with 1 year subscription to my phone. Might be a good option to control and avoid relapses as well.

Make sure you don't turn yourself into a blaming mode. You made 108 days and you are able to make it off your head completely! 

Thank you everyone for the responses. Yes 108 days I really thought I beat it to be honest. Of we go again and I am aiming to make it the last ever slip of my life.  It was my longest period without gambling. today I saw some stuff I liked which I couldn't buy which was disappointing plus the weekend plans will be on delay now. Hopefully will see a light soon. 

Just relapsed again and done my whole wage slip , got about 50 quid to get me into April now. I'm living under someones roof. It's impossible to quit whilst ahead as I think yes got that back now need the previous loss and it goes so quick. 

sorry  to here you relapsed, it happens  and is part of the process I think. Remember  how bad it felt so you never do it again.only way to beat the bookies or casinos  is not to play.you will  get through  this keep the head up

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sorry  to here you relapsed, it happens  and is part of the process I think. Remember  how bad it felt so you never do it again.only way to beat the bookies or casinos  is not to play.you will  get through  this keep the head up

I don't get why I never ever win from 10 years+ of gambling I can remember one decent win but it was highish stake. Do people actually win I had the realization today how can I be addicted when I was loosing 99% of the time.... Wow...anyway I have next to nothing to last me 3 weeks. So here it goes 

@thisisruiningmylife 

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling financially. If you think you may have issues paying for essentials such as rent, bills and food, please get in touch with our helpline, as we may be able to signpost you to organisation that would help you. Our Helpline number is: 0808 8020 133.

If you are struggling for food, please consider getting help from a foodbank. You can find your local foodbank on this website: https://www.trusselltrust.org/get-help/find-a-foodbank/
You will need a voucher which can be issued by a variety of organisations, including your GP or your local Citizen's Advice Bureau.

Kind regards, 

Kit from Forum Admin

Done 10 days just relapsed 400 pound down the toilet wow these games are unreal what hands there drawing. It's impossible to win on this *****. I'm pretty sure it's rigged. My head's a mess again. I accept defeat.

Hi 

Just a reminder we are here to listen 24/7 

https://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-support/talk-to-us-now/ via phone or online , whilst you  wait for forum responses .

Don't give up.

Best Wishes 

Fiona 

Forum Admin

I won it back this morning then ended up going into the local area started playing slots was triggered by the guy next to me loosing heavily. As It said current spend (£500) as I got in I thought it was bound to pay. Got back and the other money had landed in from a bookmaker and threw that in too. Had 2 job prospects today that I've blown out. Life is really in a state at the moment.

Not making much sense but every penny I got this month has gone. I got 25 days until i see any more money so will be living with someone and of there back this month 

Hi @thisisruiningmylife,

I'm really sorry to hear about the struggles you are having with gambling harms at the moment.

Our helpline is available 24-7 and I'm just wondering if you have had a chance to call on 0808 8020 133?

It sounds as though you have a lot going on and I just want to make you aware that we are here to help as best we can.

Is there anything you specifically need some help, advice or assistance with?

If I can gain a better understanding of your situation, it will allow me to provide me specific signposting?

Please be kind to yourself and keep going.  You are in the right place and feel free to post on our forums at any time.

We also have categorized and general chatrooms which can be accessed via the tab at the top of this site.

I look forward to hearing back from you.

Thanks

Volunteer Peer Supporter Cabe