Back in the hole

yeah i got into 750 overdraft debt , took a credit card out , gambled 1k won 2k , paid everything put it all right . cancled credit card .. only to gamble 10 then 30 then 100s at a time got back to 750 overdraft down , re opened my credit card maxed it and now find myself £3700 in debt ... this time last week i was fine .. now in dispare and desgraced

Yeah I'm the same I had paid everything of now I'm in this position of despair and I want to try and fix it with a bet but I will lose that and then I'm even further in I have practically gambled it all away because I was stressing out over the weekend I'm sure the reason was

yeah sounds like we're in the same boat , i know i shouldnt but ive found my self appling for and getting accepted for another credit card , with 1500 on it... i shouldnt but i know when it comes theres a 1500 bet going on a 4/1 to get me out of this mess .... but realisticly , ill lose and find my self deaper .. my gf dont know , i cant bring myself to tell her what a screw up iam and iam threatening my familys well being.

i mean when is the best time to say ..."hi how was your day by the way iam adicted to gambling and over the past few years ive hid my addiction from you gambled , lied ,borrowed behind your back and now we're about 4k in debt , so whats for tea"

I don't know what to do just stop gambling work away and try pay my debts and get back on my feet but that seems so far away where as one bet could clear everything! I know I just got into a new relationship with one of the most amazing people I've met in my life and she was going on holiday with her friends on Monday and it was all this that triggered stressed to be without her and how would I cope without being able to see her today, she comes back from holiday what do I be like "oh hey missed you but cause I missed you I'm now in debt and a gambler again"

yeah i know what your going thru , i cant say anything as iam keeping it hidden as long as posible giving my self as long as i can to get out of this mess before i have to confess and make me look bad , put my relationship and family at risk.

but we both know the best thing it to confess get help and fight together .

ive had pains in my chest , headaches , loss of sleep one night i stayed up till 6 watching baseball stats on my phone . i had to be up at 7 to look after my daughter all day , what kind of dad am i losing that much sleep thru gambling putting my daughter at risk due to me being tired.

how much debt are you in if you dont mind me asking

I'm probably in around £2000 worth of debt pay day company's and that! I really don't know what to do seriously need massive hwlp

Hi lads, I am not the best person to take advice from on gambling, but you both should stop NOW, it will only get worse, I have spent the best 'financial' years of my life giving my hard earnt monies to 'pills oral and brokes'. I should be retiring in a couple of years, but I will probably have to work till I am 70. I have no debt but I have gone through a hell of a lot of savings. You can't beat these bookies, that's why there are four in every high street, open from 9.00 - 22.00. Nip it now lads, pay your loans off through hard work, and get your buzz in life in a cheaper way.

hi , yeah iam a stay at home dad so what makes it worse is my partner will be working hard to pay it off not me.

also , iam on a debt plan and ive been talking with them and two rules is 1 dont obtain more debt when on the plan and 2 dont pay any other debt off during the plan . and because ive done one and have to do the other ive been told its fraudulent.

i kept my name anon so they dont know who i am (least i done something right) so iam in alot of trouble.

Guys, waiting for that one big bet, it had to come in, it owes me (right) is what got most of us in this sorry mess to start with 🙁 Even if you did stake your life on one last gamble & it came in, it wouldn't be your last...We cannot win because we cannot stop!

Stake your life on recovery instead...That's where the good money is, the honest money & the honest life, not the hell pit you are all in @ the minute!

Tell someone, ask them for help breaking your gambling (Time-Money-Location, take away one & you can't gamble) triangle with self exclusions, blocking software, handing over your finances, whatever it takes then get some proper help be it through GA, your GP or GamCare...Don't bury your heads in the sand fellas! It may seem hopeless but there is a way forwards from this - ODAAT

I wouldn't say I have the urge to keep gambling ( I know I have a problem because it started by gambling 10 that was for bills and I kept chasing it ). But the need to win back what I lost to get out of this trouble .. once out thats it for me iam self excluding . I can go in a bookies and put 1.50 on the Irish and 2 pound on a coupon and walk out ism fine .. it's the online where it gets me .

Hi davee, have you not been in this position before? Lots of people have no urges right after a blow out, when they are so utterly broken that they don't know how to feed themselves or provide for their loved ones but we're compulsive gamblers, we soon forget the rawness, let addiction convince us it is the only solution & off we go again! Your post worries me, it reads as though you are waiting to recoup your losses before self excluding? Seriously, if I am reading this right, please reconsider! Gambling is the problem not the solution, don't be the mug I was!

Draw a line now, get help, if not for you, for the family you stay @ home to protect! My mum is a CG, I know what living with one feels like! You have to fight this - ODAAT

Ryan, apologies for hijacking your thread...I hope you are feeling better today & just wanted to mention that a phone call to GamCare may help! Not only will they be able to point you towards some debt management help but they can maybe arrange some counselling to give you some different mechanisms to cope with your stresses! Gambling gives us a false high & a very painful low, you have the power to change this - ODAAT

Iam already 3600 down and In trouble . I've been told by my debt agency what I've done is fraudulent. Good job I never said who I am . I understand where your coming from and I know you speak the truth but the need to get out of this mess is strong . Yeah I've been in this mess a few times but not at this scale , it's the scale that scares me . And yeah I have a credit card coming with upto 1200 on it and like I say I know your right but I keep thinking 3600 or 4600 not much diffrence still in trouble still fraud . But there's a chance I could put it right (prob not ) . But I think iam kin da got my mind set to take this last chance and if I win clear debt . Get help . If I lose then draw the line there confess and get help .

Sorry I really know your right but I feel I need to take this chance as I can't see much diffrence in 3600 or 4600 but if I have to confess it could mean losing a lot more than 1k.