I'm done

Hi onepunchjamoo,

Well done for posting and sharing how you feel with us. I am concerned about your last sentence. 'I wish I was dead'. Whatever it is that you are going through we are here to support you, and you could speak in confidence with an advisor on our Helpline or our Netline, link to Netline on top of this page,so is our Free helpline number.

I can hear that you are not in a good place right now because you feel that even though you have managed to stop gambling online you are still able to gamble from betting shops.. You can also ban yourself from all the betting shops in your local area. You can call MOSES on 0800 294 2060 anyday from 8am to 8pm, or contact them online on www.self-exclusion.co.uk, and they will help you to exlude yourself from all the shops in your local area. Self exclusion is a strategy that could make it harder for you to gamble, in all this your determination to want help is paramount, and we are here to support you. We could give you free counselling which could help for you to look at the underlying reasons for your gambling. You can talk about Counselling, debt issues and other issues that you would like to discuss in confidence with us when you contact our Helpline/Netline.

If you're feeling suicidal, it's really important that you get some support for this. Please contact your GP, and if you want to talk to someone about your feelings, especially when our HelpLine isn't open, you can contact the Samaritans 24/7 on 116 123.

We are here to support you.

You do not have to be alone in this.

Regards

Forum Admin.

I'm not suicidal, I'd like to be dead, sure, but I'm not going to kill myself.
I'm just going to live in bed and see what happens.

Hello Onepunchjamoo,

While it is good that you don't intend intend to kill yourself, it is still concerning that your mindset leaves you feeling as though you'd like to be dead and that you have posted that you feel "Tired and fed up" and "Really sad". You could talk with your local GP about this, to get a referral for a local NHS talking treatment. I'm not sure where you're based in Britain, but there is a National Problem Gambling Clinic where the NHS offer Cognitive Behavioural Therapy https://www.cnwl.nhs.uk/cnwl-national-problem-gambling-clinic/refer/

You're welcome to call us on our freephone 0808 8020 133 if you'd like details of services closer to where you are based.

Take care,

Forum admin.

Just my one bit of advice... you will probably disregard it like every other bit of advice... but its not your life alone you are ruining, its yours partner and childs life aswell!! if your happy that she is not going to have the upbringing she deserves then fine carry on and throw your life away!! i quit gambling as i was about to lose my family and you will end up the same way if you dont start taking peoples advice... you say you would be happy in a big mansion but you would never get it, as befor you bought a masion you would say oh ill just do a bit more so i can buy my helicopter them bam you WILL lose everything!!!

sort yourself out mate dont drag your partner and child down just because you dont have the balls the quit! everyone on here is trying to help and if it was not for them i would have no family left right now but because of them im now debt free in a good job and own my own house.. you can get everything you want by working hard it may just take a little longer.

tunnie

It's easy to come on here and say positive things when you're doing great with your house and that but not as easy when you're overdrawn in both bank accounts,destroyed your credit score not paying 2 loans and you're unemployed... + I wouldn't gamble if I had enough to buy a house. I don't care about anyone's advice anymore I've given up.

Hello Onepunchjamoo

We thought carefully about whether to approve the post above as you are quite dismissive of Tunnie's support, and we do try to keep the forum a welcoming, respectful and supportive space. We have allowed it because we think it's coming from a place of despair, where you can't believe that recovery is possible, and you are comparing yourself to others, believing that recovery isn't possible for you because your circumstances are different. I just want to say in support of Tunnie, that what they are trying to tell you is that they acheived these things after stopping gambling.

As I've said elsewhere, we're going to email you directly because it sounds like you need a lot more support than you can get on an online forum right now.

Please look after yourself.

Forum Admin

Hi one punch. have things improved atall for you in 2019. I didnt take offence from the post you put after mine as i too have been in a place where you think all hope is gone. however you say its all good coming from me as i have a house.... i didnt have any of this a year or so ago i had maxed out credit cards and loans. so i did ever minute of overtime i could, i got a second job and paid it all of befor saving for a house. things are not just given to you in this life you have to earn them. hoepfull you have realised this now. a year can make all the difference mate you may not believe this but it is true. dont give up just yet....