Selfish actions have ruined life and destroyed family

@aj1234  

I understand your behaviour. I have seen a lot of people come through the GA rooms with all sorts of different addictions as well as gambling, and just like compulsive gambling is an escape from our feelings, then some people choose to use drink, drugs, food or s*x as an escape  as well.  

My advice would be to get to a GA room and if you can put the work into it then you will find that as your gambling gets put on hold, so do the other behaviours linked to your emotions around gambling. In your case it sounds like meeting women after a gambling binge is your escape. Maybe give the Gamcare advisers a call and they may be able to recommend some counselling. 

Chris.

Hi AJ. I sincerely hope that you are getting help for your problems and that your wife is too and finds peace. A person who I supported and didn't judge when she was found out cheating on her husband did not afford me the same non judgemental attitude and support when my compulsive gambling became known. She called me an " appalling creature " it made me feel even sadder at a time when I needed support the most. In 30 years of nursing men, women, men dressed as women , transgender men and women, prisoners, etc etc the list is endless, that people who in their worst hour do not need judgement but help and support. You do not have to agree with or condone someone's actions to offer support. Obviously there are things that none of us feel able to look past but there is certainly none of that in your post. Any addiction is intertwined with other things and I would imagine cheating is a common one as when you're living on the edge everything snowballs. I would imagine that there are many on here that have done things after gambling especially after losing a lot and are in that self loathing state that every compulsive gambler knows. If you are having counselling through gamcare? That counsellor should be open to exploring other things with you or recommending someone who can help you. Talking through all these issues could help you make some sense of things

AJ123. Congratulations on joining the gamcare community and thank you for your honesty and openness.

I wish you every success in stopping gambling and hope you can resolve the worrying issues that are jeopardising the future happiness of you and your family.

Stay strong friend and never lose hope. We can rediscover ourselves.

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