Hey guys.
I posted on here the other day for the first time in ages just saying that i have been gambling again for the last few months.
For those who read the post i mentioned that i was winning a decent amount of money each betting session. For someone who is fully aware of the term "gambling winnings is just borrowed money" i knew that the "lucky streak" was going to end. I knew it would of but i kidded myself that i would just stop after a small loss and then self exclude from the new shops i found.
What this post is about though guys is that im finiding it hard to come to terms with the fact i had saved ВЈ1700 in the space of a month to now having just ВЈ500 after having to heavy sessions losing ВЈ700 and ВЈ500 the last two weekends. I'm grateful to not have lost the lot and that the remaining £500 is still there. I'm just hurting and trying to ignore that bug whats telling me to try win it back.
I'm now self excluded from the new shops i found and added to my multi scheme, gamstop was in place a long time ago so im safe from fobts and online. But on tuesday night i had to talk myself out of spending £200 on euromillions hotpicks. All day in work i was sat thinking about what would happen if i won and could i afford to lose. Thankfully willpower came to my rescue and talked me out of it.
I'm going to give the money for my mum to look after and give it me back in bits. I would tell my partner who im living with but she would go mad that ive gambled again (even if i told her when it was £1700).
But i just ask for anyones advice with dealing with letting go of the money lost and to focus on remaining gamble free.
Thank you, Embracing
Hi mate.
Firstly. Massive well done for resisting the urge. I know how hard that is!
The amounts of money lost are kind of irrelevant, it could be a quid or a million quid, you have to, as I have, just write it off in your head. You have come to terms with the fact you have the addiction to gamble, now you have to let go of the loss.
In my case, I am well into five figures as a legacy of my addiction and it will take me a long time to pay it back.
I will pay it back through sacrifice and hard work.
May I also suggest that you tell your partner?
I was in the same boat as you regarding this.
My last gamble was in July, and I wasn't go to tell her as I was on my last chance, ever.
But the stress of dealing with it on my own led me to just blurt it out one night. She hates me at the minute, but I'm still here. I'm in the spare room, but we're clinging on.
Ok it's a bad situation to be in, but PLEASE TRUST ME ON THIS, it's better than hiding it from her. It's only fair on her to give her a chance on what she wants to do. You may lose her, you may not, but shouldn't that be her informed decision?
The debt, and the hurt are unfortunate side effects of this bloody awful disease. But, one day at a time it WILL get better.
I wish you all the very best in your recovery.
Matt
Resist that urge! Keep your money, its still yours, it can stay yours. I know as good as anyone on here that dark feeling of loss, and when the thoughts creep in about winning it back. You won't stop, it'll all be gone if you gamble again. Resist!! You can do it. All the best, stay strong!
The truth is we got a sickness and some get better sooner than others. We will continue to tread the path of destruction until our brain accepts we will never be free from this addiction until we fight back and have the courage to say and mean it YOURE NOT GONNA BEAT ME IM GONNA BEAT YOU. Its like a boxer had 40 fights and never won one but still believing hes gonna be heavy weight champion of the world one day. Then after your final beating reality cicks in. Its time maybe for a new career. Save yourself from the final countdown if you possibly can.
GOOD LUCK MY fRIEND
STAY STRONG
AL
You have to let it go and know that continuing to bet will just make these losses even bigger and perhaps harder to except. Dealing with all the money lost is what I found so hard to overcome and I have a thread which has some excellent advice from others on here. Hopefully you can let go and move onwards and upwards.
You have to let it go and know that continuing to bet will just make these losses even bigger and perhaps harder to except. Dealing with all the money lost is what I found so hard to overcome and I have a thread which has some excellent advice from others on here. Hopefully you can let go and move onwards and upwards.
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