2010

Hi Jas

It seems to me as if you are always trying to help someone else out.I can see you are one of those people who will always be there for your family. But Jas you also need to look after yourself , as you said in your post its even making you feel ill at times. Try to take it easy for a while. Besides you cant help anyone if you are ill yourself.Looking forward to your next post being a happy one. (and thats an order lol.)Jeff.

Hi Jas

Is the missing word 'pop' ?

Farewell My Summer Love

Hi Jas

Really dunno what I did wrong in chat tonight.

I've surprised myself at how willing I am to help others in chat and in diaries given I've only been here a short time, guess time on here doesnt matter as long as youve got the experience of gambling and I have done Training and Support work as part of jobs in the past so I've got that experience too.

Obviously not up to your standard though!

Everlasting Love

P.s. maybe I could help your sister!

jasmine. . .1st of all your not a bore. Your posts are always amusing no matter what life is hitting you with. . You had every right to be annoyed at your sister. (i would ve been as well). . Personally think your sister is not listening to you about the gambling and its effects is maybe because she knows she is seriously ill and is using gambling as a way of soothing over her health problems. . Deep down i think she knows its wrong but its a way out if you know what i mean. . As others have pointed out you help everyone and anybody and its time to put yourself 1st for a change. . Keep up the gamble free days. .

For the first time in a long time I have been assertive. I planned it and I have been nice about it too.

Declined New Year celebrations with my family.

Asked for money when we travel down to London in May in our car.

These are little things which A. Cost and

B. Niggle at me becasue in the past I wouldn't have said anything. They would have got me in a mess financially and emotionally and worse still lead me to G.

My hang ups have more to do with my compulsive gambling than I ever imagined and it's taken me the best part of a whole year to figure it out.

Things are changing and although I feel apprehensive about rocking the boat and being seen as the awkward one I actually do feel rather empowered and I can breathe a sigh of relief as I had the gutz to do it this time.

Gambling is not for me any longer.

Going to practice piano, munch on a bacon buttie and chill.

J as x

High five!!!!!

It's scary asserting yourself with your family, isnt it? Thing is, they dont tend to like it because they are not getting their own way anymore. Often they will tell you that you are being nasty, unreasonable, or aggressive. This feedback can not be trusted because its not objective. Truth is, you probably seem like one or all of those things because in comparison to what they usually find, you are. This is a good thing though!

Good for you, Jas. I'm really happy for you! It will get easier the more you do it 🙂

Take care,

f x

Hi Jas

Im like you so much. I guess all of us CG have more in common than just the gambling. You see it also taken me best part of a year to finally waken up and realise most of problems and life revolved around gambling. I dont think you can come in and just say right..thats me done with gambling..im finished. it doesnt work like that!! it takes time and hours of reading others experiences until it finally sinks in. And most importantly you have to deep down NOT want to gamble...if you are battling with your mind...should i shouldnt i eventually you will give in, such is the power. For me gambling would be nice, i did enjoy it...but i can no longer and dont want to as i know exactly where it will put me! im choosing life..might sound cheesy but i wana live and catch up on lost time due to gambling!

Jeff is the only person who springs to mind who came here for the first time and as not gambled since, im sure there are a few others, but mainly we have to go through the severe urges, the slip ups, the blips, call them what you want, but to go through them only made me stronger and i learned from every one of them.

neil

Hi Jas

Just popping in to say thankyou and farewell my friend, my time has come to leave the forum.

Dont realy know what else to say apart from i have a huge amount of respect for you and i am very grateful for all your kind/supportive posts... You, Freda, DT,Green, SA and more have helped me so very much and i wish you all the very best!

You have a heart of gold, lots of love to you and your family..andrew xxx

Hi Jas

You need to be more obliging, think of others instead of just yourself all the time and go along with what other people want a bit more.

Only joking !!! Well done for being assertive and looking after No.1 - some people may see you as cannon fodder and look down on you for being a CG - you have to stand up to them - do you think they dont have weaknesses? Are they all perfect? No chance - most have stains on their characters much worse than gambling.

You are kind and considerate and these are enviable attributes.

Love Letters

Hello Jasmine, I cant say much today as I have much going on in my head. But wanted to say ThankYou for your messages of support and the time you have taken to check up on me. This means lots to me. I wish you well - sorry cant say more at the moment or return the support .... Good thoughts - Blocked.

Hi Jas

Just back from the Tanning Salon lol ( yeah right !)

Thanks for latest post. It will be 4 weeks on Saturday, can hardly believe it, particularly with hearing about others going off the rails.

I reckon I'm about 50-50 now in taking and providing support, wouldnt have thought that at this stage.

Hope you are well today and still Mrs Assertive.

Lady Love Me One More Time

P.s. given you used 'Loved' in your last one surely that is a half point up to the Captain!

My mind is really calm and I feel happy. My daughter has got into Uni studying adult nursing....160 applied for 20 positions...so my girl did good. It has really settled me as she had turbulent teens and I am so proud she has turned it all around.

I have been offered a business opportunity...it's only something small to begin with but little acorns and all that. Business woman of the year here I come!

Going for a spa day tomorrow....it's a Christmas present....really looking forward to just chilling out and dragging my feet from one treatment room to the next 🙂

Jas xx

Great news for your daughter she's done really well.

Can I sneak in your bag for the Spa day please?

On second thoughts wouldn't like to reinfect you with wahtever lurgy I have picked up.

Have a wonderful time.

Love

W x

Cor! spa day sounds lush!

Thats lovely news for your daughter. Mad how things were a few months back!

Enjoy your pamper 🙂

f x

Thanks jasmine, god im awful weepy today...id be lost without this site..i didnt get time to read your dairy im sure i will as have a fair bit more time now...id be interested to know about how you told your partner(husband) ive been leading a double life for 10 years with my wife..i just cant even imagine how she will react..at the moment i cant bring myself to tell...the day may be close and may be forced on me.. nice to meet you

micheal