So today I’m classed as 624 But last couple of weeks have been hard I got it into my head I could ask my partner and tell her to play the slots so basically I could watch I feel guilty about this as she said yes and went along only Friday I decided while sat in a arcade with her I need to ban myself like I did with the betting shops. So I got up and spoke to the person in there about banning myself. I’ve spoken to gam care couple of times as I feel as if I’ve let my 624 days go but they told me I hadn’t as it wasn’t me putting the money into the machines. After speaking with gam care they booked me with GA for some more help incase I do relapse. It bought it all back with my partner when I was gambling and the arguments the worry’s. My partner has said if I ask her to gamble again she will phone my mother as that was my mothers idea.
You posted something similar a week ago and said your girlfriend then was going to ban herself so you couldn’t watch her. You also said you had some interaction with GA planned, yet here you are talking about the same situation.
How can a week go by and nothing change?
This illness feeds on inaction. Needing to be strong, wishing others well, wanting to do this and that, this all means nothing unless you act.
I’m not sure why GA would call you, Gamcare and GA don’t have any affiliation. You need to go to a GA meeting, not wait for a call.
In GA we talk about relapses don’t just happen, the thought process for them normally start a few weeks beforehand. You worry me that you are allowing these thoughts to grow and it needs to stop asap.
Hopefully your partner stops going in the bookies but you need to get yourself to a Gambler’s Anonymous meeting or actually talk to a Gamcare counsellor, not wait for it to happen.
Chris.
@chris-uk
I spoke with gam care and they took all my details and I had a phone call from a group called beacon they called me the other day and I have a phone appointment monday. And for my girlfriend she blocked herself from all the bookies but we had to go into the arcade to block ourselves that’s when I got triggered and asked her to play before blocking
@jadelouise96 it’s good you went to get banned but be honest with yourself. You have a problem and going into an arcade after so long of not gambling was always going to be a difficult situation for you. Hopefully it’s done now so you can move on and keep yourself clean.
As far as Beacon is concerned, they will be a gamcare affiliated counselling service. You might get some help from them but please try Gambler’s Anonymous. There will be a meeting locally to you and you won’t need to wait, just turn up. Everyone at those meetings understands you.
Whatever you do I do wish you well. Anything I say is said with your best interests at heart.
Chris.
I understand I don’t know what got it in my head to ask my partner to gamble I think it was just a trigger and I knew I couldn’t do it otherwise I would break the 624 days. I will continue to get the help from gamcare I’ve been on and off this site since 2016 then on day I just decided to stop as I had to for my sake and my partners. Thank you for the advice
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