A new life for me

Hi mate, im 13 months clean too and recognise how tough it is to keep going. I think sometimes people are more inclined to support those who keep lapsing then those who are keeping strong so wanted to post to say well done.

Im sure its been a tough time with the Mrs leaving etc and a weaker man could use it as an exscuse to go back to gambling. Our debts are clear, 2012 is a new year, onwards and upwards mate. Keep looking forward, not back!

Just want to say well done. You should be proud of everything you have accomplished. That's all.

Hiya Irish,

So sorry to hear of your recent troubles, but at the same time an extra well done for keeping yourself away from gambling. Yes very testing times.

Can I suggest that because you nearly have your debts cleared that you could put your money to good use in planning something really nice for yourself? something to look forward to?...it could be a wee help to get you through this tough time. Wishing you the very best.

Delgirl

Thaks everyone for your support means allot at min that you took the time to reply with some good comments understand that prehaps am vunerable at min and falling back into the trap of gambling again would be so easy right now, realising this is making me more determined to stay clear of it, got to try an keep spirits up so as to stop me falling into the downward spiral. ps ex complusive gambler seeks attractive nympho lady friend to waste time with sorry wrong website lol

Would love to say 14 months free but can't as have not had the best month so far, whilst drowning my sorrows as been having a rough time I bought a scratch card which triggered an adrenalin rush an buying more that led to ending up in bookies for 10 hrs on a machine, walked out evens in end, but is not the point was doing so well, anyway the sober me isn't as vulnerable and is determined not to let it happen again this was just a blip and lesson is learned again! Not dwelling on this as can't change the past only move forward. Damage limitation now is motivation for this next 12 months not gambling.

After nightmarish few days its do or die, one day at a time for me now. Concentrating on accepting that I WILL NEVER WIN MY MONEY BACK GAMBLING and its time to move on with my life.

Feb and March have not been good months for me and have included some serious drinking and gambling. I have been asking myself what are you doing but chasing losses has kept me hammering it, I think now I am probably at my lowest point in the whole thing. I want to get back on track and live a normal Life like normal people do I been here before many times and I know the score with this complusive gamblers life its no life just a slow death consisting of mental and physical destruction not to mention the financial consequences. I feel like an idiot for repeating the same mistakes over and over and ashamed to even post this on here but being honest with myself is hopefully the first step in getting a handle on this.

Hi

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time.

You really need to take some serious action to give your self a chance at this.

Self exclude , you know it's the right thing to do.

I takes guts but be brave bight the bullet .

Then if you do have a drink , which weakens your resolve that is one route you can not take.

Dusty

Thanks dusty I know you are right, quiting the drink all together now for a bit, it is clouding my resolve even next day or two after drinking I am feeling rough and vunerable to the lure of gambling. I stopped before for 13 months so it can be done and I can do it again, for first step now I will not take any more than 10 pounds or cards out with me when I leave house 1 day at a time for now I got to be a man and take responsibility no one can save me but me so gotta step up, I will keep you posted.

The battle continues on, this past 4 and a half months have been very testing times I've quit the drinking but have been careless and in denial about my problem and repeated the same stupid old mistake of gambling this combined with chasing has resulted in very heavy losses although there have only been a half dozen times the gambler in me has come back with vengeance betting and losing bigger and stupider than before. I really want to beat this addiction for good this time as its getting me into real trouble financially and emotionally I know that for me the downward spiral cycle needs to be broken now or I'm goosed. Posting this as Day 1 and will post every clean month as before. thanks everyone for supporting this loser

Hi Irish Lad

I am a relative newcomer but have just read through your thread and am really sorry that you've had such a horrible time in the last year or so.

The end of your relationship must have been incredibly painful and I know only too well that when we have found effective "pain relief" activities in the past we turn to them again when the pain gets too much. Even though we know how damaging they will be.

I know I can't make you feel better but just wanted to post and say someone is listening.

Can you get some counselling, just someone to talk the pain out with? It doesn't have to be "tell me about your mother"... just a listening ear and a haven for the worst days and someone who won't judge you if you break down and cry your heart out.

You were clean for an inspiring 13 months and I have a feeling that this period is just a blip in your many many years of sobriety that you'll be able to look back on in 2020. If you see what I mean. You can do it, you have a very good self-awareness and I can tell there is a survival instinct raging down there underneath the self-destruction. You are strong even if you don't feel strong now.

FF

Its been a while, I'm here because I need to address this issue before it finishes me off and get back on track to a life of gambling abstinence. I don't believe in recovery anymore for my compulsive gambling just abstinence the old saying once a gambler always a gambler rings through. I feel ready to follow this to the end this time no exceptions, I will post monthly milestones as i did before in 2011 the only gamble free year I've had in 20 plus