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Hi there !. As you've been here before you must realise that in order to stop gambling , that's exactly what you need to do !.

There's no half measure's I'm afraid and no easy route to take !.

Make sure you have no access on any iphone , laptop, phone , ipad , pc or kindle , block them all and do it now , you need to break the Time, money , location, triangle, remove one and you cant bet , "it works" .

The debt's we end up with can be a trigger to start gambling again , we think just one big win and I'll be fine ,pay everything back and life will be good again ? , trouble is ,if we do win , we blow the lot again qnd thats the cycle of a compulsive gambler . we cant win because we cant stop !

You have to let all the losses go in order to move forward , its gone its not coming back , so accept it and stop chasing your losses , it's the only way !. We all have debt's through gambling , accept that your going to have to pay that back over time but by stopping gambling the debt will go down and you won't be adding to it anymore.

Focus on your son for inspiration , if that photo doesn't do it , what will ?.

Gambling sucks us all in, we enjoy it for the right reasons at first but gradually it becomes less and less about the money and just about the buzz and that becomes really expensive to satisfy .

Maybe speak withthe gamcare team regarding blocks or debt advice if you feel the need ? , posting on here and reading the story of other likeminded people also helps to fight the urge , your not on your own with this, as there's tons of support available on here from people who know exactly what your going through !.

Take one day at a time worriedmummy, little steps and in time the worries will fade ! Best wishes for now . ...Alan

Hi,

I can only emphasise on the top advice that Alan has provided you with.

I understand your concern about debt. For me it's another 4 years to clear. Am I worried - no. It will be paid when it is paid. Stepcahnge will deal with that.on my behalf. My energy moves into my recovery and continued abstaining.

You can do it. You have to prove to yourself you can do it.

Best wishes

thank you for your comments I appreciate you taking the time out to help me, your right my son does deserve the very best and its long overdue but now he is going to get my attention 100%, my big down fall is online slots, I have never stepped foot into a bookies in my life, but can easily spend 100's in a few hour online, I have self excluded from all sites that I had now, but have stills received a few promotion text messages off some of these sites since? So having to block every number as it comes through. I do most of my gambling at work, as I'm not at work until tonight I'm hoping it will be a gamble free day, so determined this time!! sorry for rambling on.

So I'm sat here finding it hard not to sign up for another site, why the bloody he'll am I so week?? A day and I'm finding it a struggle!!! Have just transferred the money I have available in my account into my mums for her to save so I don't spend it, I feel like a teenager again 🙁 a daft one at that.

Hi there , the first few day's are always hard , it will become easier as the days pass but you have to change what you do , the way you plan your day !.

Your brain has become used to the routine , just like getting up in the morning and having that first tea or coffee, it's automatic?.

It's no good just sitting and dwelling on it , you need to change focus and get up and do something else , occupy your mind !

Little steps !! Alan

Thank you, I have transferred my money over so have none in the bank to gamble even if I wanted to, so another gamble free day for deffo. 🙂

Good for you , always thinking ahead is what you need to do , keep the doors locked so Mr Gamble can't get in ,

the less temptation the better.

Enjoy your gamble free day !!.

Best wishes ..............................Alan

Thank you ALAN, I am feeling kind of positive today for the first time for a while, I am going to see family today before going to work so will be no time to gamble! I am getting rather fed up of all the messages/emails even though I have self excluded from sites, or new sites offering bonuses, they don't half make things harder 🙁 I have always found weekends harder as I spend a lot of time at home, need to make sure all blocks in place ready for the upcoming weekend, I am so determined this time.

Keep up the good work keeping busy is the best way to keep your mind off it

I've you go on CJA post he knows a way to put a filter on emails so you don't get them and they get deleted straight away in air he will give you some advise

Yep! ,Thats what they do on the sites keep pestering , there not going to let go of someone who pays there wages and adds to the vast profit they make , that easy ! Are they ?.

Your doing great , stay strong and take one day at a time , remember little steps !

Alll the best for now ...................................Alan

Well what a crappy day!! Not gambled but been having some health problems for a while, had to go to the doctors for a examination due to a number of things and it looks like I may have chrons disease 🙁 I haven't felt the best lately but put this down to not long having my ballbladder removed, what a kick in the teeth, now I'm petrified, normally this would be a massive reason for me to gamble the thought entered my head and straight away I thought you know what, I've wasted enough of my life chasing money when there's more important things, life's too short, instead I'm gunna dose up on painkillers and cuddle my little boy in bed while watching films, so another gamble day free but a very sad one also 🙁

Sorry to hear you're not well, hope they can help you make day to day life manageable, how are you getting on now?

CW