[Closed] Charly's life

Hi Charly,

You happiness is clear to all, so good to know that despite the shattering news of losing your job. You were immediately able to see some good from it. I guess in giving you some notice, it also allows you to look ahead and find new employment.

During my later years in gambling, I was promising myself to take my entire family to Disney.....wishful thinking, I had lost touch with reality at that time. Now I'm thinking clearly again, smiling so much in hearing that you can meet your promises to yourself and your family.

I've enjoyed some fabulous trips lately, still got a few wee things to resolve, as ever wanting things to happen immediately. Workwise, I'm still knocking on doors...lost out on 5 jobs, not looking too promising now for the latest either but I'm prepared to keep knocking for the one I want and won't compromise on the rates I want either. We now have a clear idea of what we want from life Charly....I know you will get where you want to be starting with Disney and a fabulous holiday with the family that will mean SO much to all.

hiya charly and thanks you for your wonderful post on my diary... yes this is the life we strive for being a cg and you know what it is bloody fantastic!!!

im so sorry about you being made redundant next year.. i was made redundant in june and had been with the company for 8 yesrs nearly i was gobsmake... i loved my job and the thought of going back too being a stay at home mum was so frightening now 4 months down the line i dont think i could change it...... i went too disne land in 2001 and it was brilliant i hpe you are going also xx u need the rest tacke care charly speak soon nn shell

Hi Charly,

I only join this site yesterday and am just at the beginning of stopping my gambling addiction, I wasnt sure if writing a recovery diary was for me, most of it's not good stuff, but ive just read your's from start to finish and would like to thank you for writing such a honest account of everything you've been through, it's helping me to read other people's storys, would just like to send you my best wishes as well.

Steve

((((Charly))))

I'm sorry I haven't been posting much lately! I just haven't felt the need like I did in the beginning. Thank you so much for your post recently. You always seem to say the most wonderful things to warm my heart when I'm feeling low. I'm so thankful to have you as a friend.

I know all to well the pain of losing a job, but this will turn out to be a blessing, because I know the right thing will come along for you and your family. I believe it in my heart. And, like you said, now you have the money for your vacation. God is good! (Or your higher power. 🙂 )

Love, Anna

HI Charly

Thanks for callingn in on me.. Something in your last post gave me a yummy feeling

Things happen in life for a reason, I'm a firm believer of that. I do believe I was meant to go down the gambling road, if only to find G.A. and Gamcare. For both have enabled me to get my head out of the sand, start looking at me and start changing things about me that aren't good. I would have not changed in a million years if it wasn't for the tools I have been fortunate enough to receive.

Thanks for showing me that I am fortunate, I sometimes forget that xx

Well hon we are both going through some life changing stuff at the moment, both being made redundant and you are so right it happnes for a reason.. It gives us that gentle push to do something different to try something different and to embrace what is ahead of us, to see it as an oppourtunity. Its no longer scary because now we are not alone, now we are ready to face each day and what it has to bring xx

I will update soon what is going on as I have to be a little carefull was to what I say (walls have ears and all) ..

I have a huge smile as I am typing this (Cheers Charly you are a star) xx

Love & Hugs

Lucy

xxx

Hi Diary

Things are going well in 'Charly world'

I pray daily that gambling is a thing of the past. It feels good to just live life day by day.

My 'angel' and I are in the process of arranging our wedding which is to take place in Germany either April or May next year. My angel would have married me years ago, but I wasn't ready for that path until recently. I was scared and confused. As you know from previous entries, I never really liked myself and couldn't understand why my angel wanted to be with me, when I so obviously didn't want to be me. Plus the fact that I had been in a very volatile marriage before didn't help. memories have a funny way of showing up when you least expect them to.

G.A. has been such a blessing in my life, for it has given me the chance to change the things I always thought were not possible to change. And it helped me to dicover who I was, who I am and I want to be. 🙂

So here I am 16 months in my recovery, finally seeing for the first time in my life that I am a good person, worth loving. Realising that and beginning to like me has made the desicion to marry my angel really easy. I want to spend the rest of my life with him and what better way to do that as his wife. My children are really happy for us and so is the rest of the family.

I have sent my Mum on a mission to find out the details as to what paperwork is required and once we know how long it will take to get it all together, we will decide on a date.

I am getting really excited now I know where I want my path to go.

I wish you all well on your paths.

God Bless

Charly 🙂

Oh, Charly, what a wonderful post. I can just feel the happiness and peace coming through the wires all the way over here in America. Loving it!!! Just loving it!

- Anna

Absolutely delighted for you Charly, having read your diary I know the hardships you have been through. The pain & suffering you hvae had to endure while in recovery, so it's fabulous that you have indeed found your angel to take you to a new life. Having stood by you through difficult times, I know you will both be extremely happy in future,

A June wedding in Germany sounds excellent, maybe coincide with mine to Sharon (June 27th), no matter what a double celebration on the cards at least for June.

A lot of arrangements to be made, people to be informed but all worthwhile. A real tribute to you and your soon to be husband that you have both fought through such dark times so enjoy all the happiness in the world Charly & your angel.

Thank you all for reading my diary and/ or replying. I feel blessed to have so many friends. I am glad you have all found your way to this site. XX

My Mum called last night with the list of required paperwork for our forthcoming wedding. Blimey.. I didn't know there is so much paperwork involved. As I am now a resident in the UK, our request to be married in Germany has to go to the German County Court for approval and all our documents have to be sent to Germany to be translated by a court appointed translator. You know.. what good is it that I have learned 3 languages and then I can't translate these things myself...LOL only kidding.. I suppose I could write in there what I wanted....lol (now there's an idea)

So....instead of an Easter wedding, we are now looking at a June wedding. I don't want to steal Willy's limelight but I know he won't mind if we choose June to get hitched, too. Thanks Wills and Boxer - luv ya both xx

Well anyway, we are now looking at the 10th June. Angel is going to find out from his sister tomorrow when his Mom's birthday was ( he thinks it was the 10th June, but isn't sure, bless him)

Things are really good in Charly's world. No gambling thoughts, lots of love and peace and tranquility in my life now. It's normal day to day stuff and I love it.

I am chairing my G.A. meeting tomorrow and am looking forward to that too.

I wish I could bottle this feeling I have and give it to everyone. I reckon it would make the world a better place. I know my world has become a better place since I stopped gambling.

Love to all

God Bless

Charly. xx 🙂

Thanks for writing in my diary Charly. I'm so glad everything is good in your life. I hope I will be as happy and content as you in 16 months.

Hi Charly,

just been reading some of your story, I can see how far you have come. You are certainly a prolific writer. Like you I share my experience,strength and hope, opinions are not for me because I am passing on something I haven't experienced. What keeps me grounded is that I know a complusive gambler knows how I am feeling. Thanks for posting.

May your god go with you

Paddy xx

Hey Charly,

No problems at all, Just makes June that bit more enjoyable for all our friends on this board. June 10th will go down on my calendar as a special occasion, another success story for GA / Gamcare thanks also to your own hard work. Sure to be an inspiration to many others, a chance to see that we can break free and regain full control of our lives.

Hehe the dreaded red tape, well at least Sharon & I don't have to deal with any language problems. Well once she learns Scottish that is LOL

Have a truly fabulous day Charly, well deserved, lots of work ahead to put arrangements in place but well worth it.

Hi Charly, sorry for the delay in replying to you. As you may be aware i have been away again for a month and things have been pretty hectic since i got back.

I went to my meeting last night and found out that our next open meeting is on Tuesday 4th November so that is when i will be getting my pin. It causes me a problem as im due to be on nights so i have to do some juggling.

Great to see you marriage news......life is so good for you now and couldnt be happier for you...youre a gem xx

Hi Diary

Thank you people for your kind words in my diary.

Well, I'm glad yesterday is over with. It was the 8th anniversary of my brother's suicide and I tried to have as normal day as possible. We arranged to go out for lunch with 20 people from work. That was positive and quite distracting. I refused to be dragged down into negative thoughts all day yesterday and when I got home after work I was really head tired. I cooked dinner and then sat down and read for a while. Then my Mom called and we had a chat. She didn't mention Charly at all, which confused me a bit. But then I thought, hey I deal with it in my way. Who am I to dictate how my poor Mom deals with it.

Emotions are a funny invention. I went from really positive to really negative in a space of a few minutes. Made myself think positive thoughts. It was quite a roller coater of emotions yesterday.

And then I hear about an accident on the M6 motorway,where a whole family was killed, Mom, Dad and 4 children. I prayed and realised how very fortunate I am.

My day ended on feeling very blessed to be where I am and to know so many people all over the world who have helped me to get where I am.

When I went to bed last night I felt grateful and still do today.

God Bless

Charly(Sabine)

Hi charley, you are so right, there is a lot to be grateful for. A whole family wiped out in one fell swoop. You can't even begin to imagine how their familes & friends deal with that. At least the problems faced here can be delt with, there are choices. There is a way forward. Was feeling sorry for myself but now see it for what it is. Going to take a leaf out of your book and think positive thoughts. Ostrich