[Closed] Charly's life

Hi Charly

Thanks for the post on my diary, it made perfect sense to me. You always seem to give me alot to think about, you posts are very thought prevoking and realistic with great advice.

Thanks again charly, take care and your recovery amazes me, your great. ands xx

Hi Diary

Thought I write about the happenings in Charly's life and how it makes me feel.

I am grateful to my Higher Power and my faith. There is a saying within the fellowship:

Let go and let God..... and it is so true. The minute I stop and try to control my life, good things happen. Please read on.

Have seen the solicitor, signed the compromise agreement and am now officially without a job. My old company is paying me more then I thought, which is a bonus as we are going to the States next month. Other monies have materialised which is making it easier to live.

I have had written confirmation that I have finally paid off my last gambling debt.(credt card)

Another debt I queried has now been written off(after 2 and a bit years of questioning if it was mine in the first place)

You see, when I gambled I had no idea of what I was doing apart from trying to get money to feed my addiction.

Hence, when companies said I owed them money I could only assume they were right. I started paying one of them in monthly installments and then, because I had stopped gambling and I had taken my head out of my arxx, I began to think and realised that it may not be my debt. It was approx £700 from a catalogue and I thought I had paid them. Then I moved and I thought maybe the people who moved into the flat after me had used my catalogue (I lived in a not so nice area back then) But you see, the mind goes haywire when you gamble so I couldn't be sure. Anyhow, I stopped paying the debt collectors, called them and asked for the catalogue people to send proof of the order.I told them I would carry on paying if it was my debt, i was not just trying to get out of paying, but I couldn't be sure.

I received a letter a few days ago from the debt collectors saying, as the catalogue people cannot proof that the order was mine,they are writing the debt off.

After 2 and a bit years off not gambling I can finally say I am out of debt.

One day at a time and learning to let go. Oh wonderful fellowship.

I was in such a state when I first stopped. I thought I would never get out of the mess I had made for myself.

Be patient my fellow compulsive gamblers, I know now that I can have anything in the world if I put my mind to it, all without gambling.

You know something else..I don't need all these things I used to dream about wanting to have. Life is so rich for me. I do have a home, I do have family who love me, I do have friends all over the world now. I am getting healthy again.

What more do I need? I cannot take any of the material things with me when I go, so why worry about having or not having them in the first place.(change of thinking from within)

Watching the sun go up in the morning, seeing my son or my daughter smile at me and tell me they love me. Going for a walk and watch the birds and the trees and the boats on the water. Make sandwiches and a flask and have a picnic with the people I care about.

That is what is important. Not what I can or can't buy.

Love and Hugs to all of you who read my ramblings.

God Bless

Charly xx

Hiya Sabine

Am glad u have climbed another mountain in ur life, u deserve it mate. Thanks again for ur comments it makes life a wee bit easier when there is people like u who understand. Have got my 2nd meeting 2nite and i am actually looking 4ward to it.

Take Care

Iain x

Hi Diary

Have just been in chat and it was another good experience. I hope the lady who came and asked for advise will come back to share.

Being able to help others from my experiences is such a good feeling. Like G.A. says, to be able to keep recovery, you have to give it away.

I will attach soemthing else I have read about patience. It rang a lot of bells with me. Patience is one of the major defects of characters I have, one I have to work at day by day and at times have great difficulties with.

Well, I hope the acticle will help some of you too.

Take care, love and hugs.

God Bless

Charly xx

Patience is very important in life because there are so many things that take time to develop for us to experience in a positive way. Of course we want everything right here right now, but that is not always the way it works. It takes time to build anything of any significance in life.

A building, for example, cannot be sustainable and inhabitable without a lot of hard work put into constructing the foundation. If we were not patient with the building of the house and dedicated to it and believed that we could create it, it would have never been developed.

The good things in life take time. Sometimes we come into life for the mere experience of pain and suffering. Where we come from originally, we are always in love and experience great bliss, so sometimes when we come here we spent a great portion of our lives suffering and we wonder why. The reason is because pleasure isn't as enjoyable without the pain, so we have to be patient and endure our lives and accept our situations to be able to experience the bliss that we so rightfully deserve.

Patience is important in life because if we try to make something happen, we put a lot of stress on ourselves. Life is not about living in the future or in the past. Life is about accepting the present moment. Patience is probably the biggest lesson for us to learn because with infinite patience, we are infinitely merciful and accepting and forgiving. With unlimited patience we can accept any circumstance and are truly free. We are in need of nothing and are happy just to be as we are. The key to enlightenment is patience. Practice and mediate on the concept.

Once we develope our patience and are in need or want of nothing, we find ourselves with everything and lack nothing. This comes though, not overnight. Patience usually comes through a lifetime of refinement and suffering, or through spiritual discipline and education. However you find it though, make sure that you do, because when you do, you will be rewarded beyond measure.

God Bless

Thanks Charly, the patience post rang so true for me, don't think I have evr has any 🙂

Happy you are being strong as evr in your recovery.Thinking of you

Take care

love

Wxxx

((((charly)))) that is wonderful news about your finally being debt-free!

What a lovely post earlier, about what is important in life. Your contentment and inner peace jump off the page. I am extremely happy for you 🙂

Hi charley

I have emailed you with the info that you required.

Good luck in your new role.

Take care

Jim (last bet 22/04/06)

Any chance of a sub then Charly???? 🙂

Hope all is well....

Take Care

Stay Strong

Kim x

Hey Everyone

Things are going well in Charly's world. Thought I share some good things for a change. Have you noticed that a lot of people only share when they have issues to be resolved (me included), but when things go well they don't post. Sometimes I think, life is good, no need to post, it might upset someone who is still at the beginning of their journey and is in no mood to read about someone's good life. Then I think, oh but it is nice for them to know that in time they too can have that good life. All they need to do is their recovery one day at a time. So .... here goes...

I am coming to the end of my last treatment. I had my last chemo on the 5th August and my body is finally able to recover from all the poison that had to be injected. My hair is growing, along with my fingernails, I still have some numbness in my toes but all the feeling back in my fingers. I have horrible joint ache, including my back and will have to have a chat with my doctor when I go for my check up on the 18th September.

But....... the cancer is gone...I shall take all the side effects as they come... I am fortunate and feel blessed for I am on the positive side of the cancer fight.

Because I haven't gambled I am now going on holiday for the first time and I am able to pay for my whole family. We are all getting very excited now as the flight to Orlando is getting closer and closer. Last weekend we booked all the extra tickets for parks outside of Disney. We are all going to visit both Universal studios, Bush Garden and Sea World as well as all the Disney Parks.

15 days to do it all.....I hope my body can do it all..I know my mind can... soooooo......America...here we come....

Home life is getting better also, even with my boys thinking I can do most of it now. They are helping a bit more now and I convince myself to overlook things at times.

It's all about compromises and finding a common denominator.

I am now made redundant but cannot go for jobs until after the holidays because I am still signed off sick until the 24th October.

And still I am not worried.... I have faith and I know that after the last few months I can deal with most of what life has in store for me and I know I will find a new job.

You all take care in your recovery.

Love and Hugs

God Bless

Charly xx

Hi Charly

Please don't go on holiday I don't think it will be your cup of tea. What airport will I meet you at and I'll take your place and won't charge you any money for doing so.

On a serious note good for you. We went last month or so and it really is a fantastic holiday. Please enjoy it and tell us all about it when you're back. Glad everything is on track for you.

Take care

Steve E

Fantastic news Charly and I know you & the family will thoroughly enjoy visiting Orlando.

So much to see & do, sure you will be booking again LOL. We stayed just down the road from Sea world on International Drive, great weather, great people and wonderful amenities.

You have been through so much, so no-one can gripe that you rightly announce the good things in your life. After all if this section was filled only with doom & gloom then it really would be a drab place to post,

Entries such as yours brighten the lives for 00s of others, some of whom will know exactly the same worries as yourself so a ray of sunshine for them all.

I know you will have a superb time, take loads of pictures and a lifetime of memories.

We shall all enjoy it with you Charly via your words as the happiness shines through in all you write.

Charly

Thanks for such a positive pst and well done to you on all fronts,,,,,,,,,, what a lot you have chieved this last 12 months 🙂

Have a great holiday and take lts of photos like Willie said,luxuriate in this cos youdeserve it girl xxx

W xx

Had to post on your diary as you had 666 entries - yikes! the number of the beast, lol

Hope you are well,

f x

Thanks for your posts..you know who youa re 🙂

My My....how time flies....

I have popped in to read stuff but haven't felt like adding anything to my diary.

Then I read something on Keith's diary which made me think....thanks my friend...you only get back what you put in...how very true...

I have been busy with a lot of different things over the past 2 weeks. Organising paperwork for myself and for G.A.

Preparing bits and pieces for the forthcoming holiday including clothes shopping(I don't like shopping, grrrrr)

I have decided that clothes shopping should be barred too. Especially if you don't feel very good about yourself anyhow. It's not fun. I am just glad that my angel loves me regardless.

I have done a lot of soul searching again and I have come to the conclusion that I still don't like "Me" very much.

I am hoping to be able to finally start losing some of the weight I have put on courtesy of the steroids I was given during my chemo therapy.

I am very grateful for a lot of things in my life and I am positive that I am able to work on the issues I still have.

One day at a time...what a wonderful saying....it's not a cliche....I can apply that saying to everything in my life and it works.

I hope you are all well and keeping on your recovery program.

Love and Hugs

God Bless

Charly xx

Hi Charly

You may not like yourself too much at the moment but you accept where you're at, in my opinion. That is a good path to tread in this recovery. We have a lifetime to get it right so plenty of time for you to perfect it and love yourself all over again.

Take care and easy does it

Steve E