[Closed] Charly's life

Hi Charly,

Great to see someone having a fabulous time when they get sent to "Coventry" hehehehe. I've only been there once, worst game of football I've ever seen, honestly the pre-game warm-up was the highlight. Never saw anything of the city itself can't even recall where I stayed overnight must have been some hotel hehehe. Honestly I don't drink at all, never have...guess my mind must be boggled as well LOL. Box would have a laugh as that's something I tend to say quite a lot.

Good news about your mum, just needing a wee touch up with some TLC and get a good many years yet.

Sounds like you are much happier with life in general too, so things are as they should be, might be a little on the liquid sunshine side outside but in Charly's world Bright & Sunny just they way you would like it.

hey charly,

glad to see that things are good for you at the moment. It's great to hear that the pinning went well.

see ya soon hun,

alice x

Thanks All

Actually, I feel a bit bad about one of the posts I put on here last week.

I posted on Findthepath's diary on the 21st and the poor soul got a bit upset with it. I did apologise but Findthepath hasn't been here since. Feel guilty as heck for upsetting someone. Sometimes my mouth(in this case my fingers) run away with my brain.

Maybe I should have wrapped my words up a bit.

I keep looking out for his posts. Now I worry about him. Hope he's ok.

Charly

Hi Charly....im pretty confident the reason he has not been back is not related to your post. What you said was spot on but i understand how you feel the way you do. I have been guilty of it myself on a few occasions, just get carried away when typing, its not meant in any personal way but some people who are feeling less strong sometimes interpret it this way which is a shame. I think sometimes you just read stuff and through personal experience and sometimes frustration, you can see yourself in them and know the damage we did to ourselves and dont want to see others doing the same. Its done with the right intentions.

On the other hand, many people are grateful for directness as it gives them a wake up call, so i guess it horses for courses.

Best wishes

Keith

Hi Charly

What you posted on FAP diary was how I was feeling and I couldn`t get my head around the posts he was making - so weel done for poiting out what many of us felt..

Lol I am a coward xx

Keep posting Charly, Life is good and its going to get better xx

All My Love and hugs

Lucy

xxx

Hi There

Thank you Keith and Lucy for your comments. They have helped to make me feel better.

This new me sometimes scares me. Being honest is not always easy.

I have tried this week to sort out my finances. At the moment I'm paying al ot of people different set amounts every month which means I don't have a lot left over for day to day use. I tried to get a loan to consolidate them all so I can pay less each month. What a joke that is. They bombard you on the phone and via e-mail to supposedly help you, but all they want is more money out of you.

These people are very crafy. They say:"great news, we can help you" but they just want your money. I have decided I'm going through the proper channels(I applied on-line) and go and see my bank manager today. If he can't help then I will just have to struggle on for a while longer. At least I'm not giving those loan sharks any hard earned cash of mine.(And I will do this on my own, my partner has had to to pay enough in the past, my debts, my responsibility)

I know I'm going to be alright eventually because I don't gamble anymore.

Am looking forward to the weekend. We're not going anywhere, but we help out at a Country&Western Music club once a month on a Saturday night and run the bar.

We used to do this every week until 2 yrs ago and then every fortnight. Now the country music is only on once a month.

It'll be nice to see everyone again and listen to some live music.

Y'all have a good weekend. Stay strong and be safe.

God Bless you all

Charly

Hi hun money is allways a worry if you need advice chat to me i think im a bit of an expert on debt now . Money can be sorted dont let them worry you i was getting up to 9 calls a day it made me so ill . Im never going to let a faceless credit card company do that to me again most threats they make is pie in the sky they are bullys . The most worrying thing in your posts is the liking of country music lol . Stay strong and safe i see you Sunday my friend hugs pete xxxxx

hi charly hope you get things sorted i was reading my diarie and saw a post on ther from you ref baning myself just to let you know me and my lovely wife r just going to do it now i hope you have a nice weekend keepsafe steven and wife

Hiya Charly

Hope you get your money worries sorted soon , still trying to sort my own financial mess out , its hard but im sure you will get there in the end. Just dont be tempted by all those people that bombared you with what seems like a great offer , like you say , generally they are not that good and they are preying on people like us that really need proper and sesible help and advice.

Have you tried someone like the cccs, they have a lot of good,free advice

Hope you have a great time at your country&western night

All the best

Stephen

hi charly, just popped into your dairy to say hello and that i am thinking of you

those debts dont go away in the short term unfortunately, but by not gambling they will eventually go away. then you can be free of the devastating effects of this horrific addiction.

in the mean time, hang on to the fact that you are a good person, maybe you lost your way for a bit, but you are a good person.

love

rusty

xx

Hi Charly,

Thanks for your great post on my diary, it gave me a whole new perspective about hubby speaking out.

I am in the place as you with debts I am paying bits of all the time and taking responsibility for. I can tell you the same as the others, those calls are all just to put the firghteners on, so long as you keep making some payments to them there is nothing they can do.

I know it gets you down sometimes and it does me too but they are empty threats, I told the last few either accept what I can pay or make me bankrupt its your choice...........they said we don't do that.

The reason is if they did they get nothing, try the ccss they can be reallt helpful.

Take care

love

W xxx

Charly thank you for sharing your story. I think many of us have significant others, spouses whom we are afraid to reveal our problem to, and it seems like we don't give them enough credit in the beginning, as it seems like from most testimonies, from the start, the other person who cares about us and loves us, is willing to see us through this problem. It sure did lift a 1000 pound gorilla off of my shoulders. Telling someone (non-stranger) was one of my greatest stressors. Thanks again.

Hi Charly,

Just a quick note to say many thanks for taking the time to post on my diary. I appreciate your kind words and message of support..

I wish you all the best on your journey too!!

Take Care

Gary

Thank you all for your thoughts and messages.

As usual my lovely man came to the rescue again on Saturday.

He was starting to worry why I was getting all these phone calls, so Saturday morning I told him why. He gave me a big hug and told me that if I worry about anything again to speak up and talk to him. He said he may not be able to wave a magic wand but he can give me the moral support I need.

He said he was proud of me and what I have achieved and through talking about any issues I may have, we will be able to conquer all. I realised that one of my flaws has once again shown it's ugly head. ""Impatience"".

That is still a tough one for me to deal with.

On Wednesday I will reach my 9 months without a bet and sometimes I feel that things should be back to normal by now. They can't be of course. I can't expect the damage I caused over years to disappear in a few months. But my 'Angel' has given me the strength to take one day at a time. LOL. I write that down a lot in other diaries. About time I go back to basics and take my own advise.

The weekend turned out great after this rocky start. Went to Country Club and we were rushed of our feets all night, but enjoyed the music.

Sunday we went to a local clock and watch exhibition(my Angel loves to tinker with clocks and watches) I thought he'd enjoy it and I was right.He had sparkles in his eyes.

Not my scene, but the important thing is that we did something together.

My lovely lad cooked dinner yesterday because it was Mother's Day. He said he didn't have any money so he thought he'd do this. Bless him. He's a good lad.

He knows I don't believe in Mother's Day or Valentine's Day for that matter. We do things for each other throughout the year. I don't need one specific day a year to show my family how much I love them and they don't either.

Last night was G.A. and it was a brilliant meeting. I took a lot out of it. All in all a very positive weekend.

I will write on other diaries later. I better get back to work.

Love to all

Stay strong

God Bless

Charly

Hey Charly.

9 months is a great achievement! You're doin well and you've been an inspiration to me for a long while now (well ever since i first met you at ga!).

I'm so pleased for you that you have such an amazing hubby. I think it definitely helps to have that support at home.

Hope to see you soon,

Alice x