[Closed] Charly's life

My goodness Sabine,

you and your family are just being battered with one thing after another. I'm so sorry to hear of everything that is going on.

I don't know what it is like in Germany, do they have state funded places where your mum could live? I know if I could go in a home to relieve the pressure on my kids, I would run there. I'm sure the last thing your mum wants is your sister to break down under the stress.

I hope things improve for you and your family.

Take care,

f x

Hi Sabine!

Just want to send my love.

Viggo!

How crazy life is! Yesterday, my whole family comes to G.A. with me to celebrate my 4 year pin and many happy things were said and I felt very proud and loved. Today I receive a phone call from my sister at lunch time to tell me that my wonderful, lovely caring Dad has passed away. 3 days Dad. I'm flying to Germany on Thursday to spend time with my family. For some reason you couldn't wait around until then. I love You Dad. x sleep tight. God Bless X

(((Sabine))) My thoughts always with you

Jackie xxx

Bless you Jac, for your kind words. They mean alot. It is always good to know there are people who care. I am very grateful for that. I feel very lost and numb today. My little family(angel,son,daughter and son-in-law) and I all sat together last night and celebrated Pops's, Opa's life. We drank a bottle of his favorite tipple, (Jaeger), then started writing down all the sayings he used to say.(lots of laughs) We all signed the bottle and the list of sayings will go in it to be kept to remember a wonderful man. Thanks to my beautiful little sister for organising for me to get to say good bye to my Dad on Friday morning. Angel and I are flying to Germany Thursday evening. This was meant to be a happy long weekend with friends and family. We'll have to make it a thankful, grateful weekend instead. Thankful for having had a wonderful man in all of our lives and grateful that we were allowed to keep him with us for so long. His work here is done. God needs him more now. Love You Dad. xx

My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. I'm thinking about you pet...big hug.

Love Del x

Thank you Del. That is very kind of you. x Dad's funeral is on Tuesday, 5th July. Our long planned long weekend was from the 30th June to the 4th July to enable us to see family and for me to go to my 30 year school reunion. Needless to say that as soon as my sister told me that the funeral is on Tuesday, I got onto the phone to Flybe to change the return flight. We now have until the 8th in Germany. The reason I've mentioned the airline is because they've been great. Cheap airlines often get bad press for charging for all sorts of stuff. Although I had to pay the extra on the actual flight they kindly wavered the admin fee. And the best thing at this horrible time is that I am able to do it. I can say the extra and fly to Germany. Had I still been gambling I would not have been able to say goodbye to my lovely Dad. And that my friends, opens my eyes again to how awful this addiction really is. I decided to go to a G.A. meeting last night. Anyone who says G.A doesn't work, hasn't given it enough time.

I was able to share my pain with my G.A. family(not my regular group) and I felt like I was being wrapped into a safe snug blanket. People all over the world lose people. In the room people share that experience and how they felt at the time which gives me and all who attend, the feeling of not being alone, a feeling of belonging. I'm sharing this with you because, G.A doesn't get the credit it deserves. I realise it doesn't work for everyone. It only works for those who want it bad enough. I did and I am grateful to have it's arms to fall into and be hugged by whenever I need it. Have a gamble free time. Keep working at yourselves. Only you can change you. And only if you want it bad enough, will you succeed. Because you then stop finding excuses to have one. God Bless. Sabine x

Hi Sabine,

Sorry to hear of your recent loss. I'm not too good with words but just wanted to offer my condolences to you and your family. Its lovely you have your GA family there for support too. You are a wonderful person and you go out of your way to help other people in their recoveries. God bless you Sabine xx

Hiya Sabine,

Just wishing safe and smooth travel to Germany tonight and a lovely send off for your dear Dad. So pleased the airline showed compassion and sorted things out. Take care. xo

Love Del

Oh Sabine,

I'm so sorry to read your latest news. I have been a bit pre-occupied with my own stuff but that is terribly sad news.

Wow, what a great example of how quitting gambling makes it possible to be a loving family member, I am so very happy that you don't have gambling standing in the way of you doing the right thing at this time.

I'm sure it will be a great comfort to be able to actually see and touch your sister and your mum, and thank them for doing such a great job of taking care of your Dad. I know you were frustrated with the pressure your sister was under, and being so far away. I'm sure they are desperate to give you a huge hug too.

Take care as best you can, and safe journey

f x

Hi Sabine.

Have a safe journey, and like freda says i'm sure your family there will want to give you a big hug.

I love that part of your last post when you wrote" Only you can change you" that is so so true!Wise words Sabine as always from you.

All my best and take care.

Viggo.

"And that my friends, opens my eyes again to how awful this addiction really is."

Now this really struck a chord in my heart. What an unbearable thought, you not being able to go away for a very important few days of your life because you threw all your money away...

I hope that it goes well and enjoy the time that you have with your lovely family.

All the best.

GT

im still fortunate to have both my parents sabine but its one of my biggest fears in life. .Cant imagine what your going through but will say a wee prayer for you on Tuesday x you take it easy lass x

Thoughts are with you Sabine!

Dropping in sat a real heart felt thankyou, a year ago today yours was the 1st diary i ever read. Felt ba real honour when you popped ito mine and said 'you believe in me and 1 day i will to' Top lady.

Wishing you and family all the very best..