[Closed] Charly's life

Hi All

Tried very hard to stay in the chat room tonight.

Keith I love your sense of humour. Talk talk won't like mine when I get hold of them tomorrow though.

Just as well I'm the new me now. the old one would exploded with anger. i'm still thinking about Keith's comment.-she can call germany for free, but can't chat jut down the road.

Bless you.

I'll connect tomorrow afternoon from work.

Good Night all.

God Bless

Charly

Hi Charly, maybe they have the German equivalent you could try....Spiel Spiel!!

Have a great day tomorrow. x

Hi there Charly

Just wanted to say hi and thank you for all the suppotrtbthat you are giving out to myself and my wife Debs.

I take great comfort from the people oon here at the moment and you are one of the best.

Cheers and I hope you have a good day today.

Hi Diary

First of all - Thank you for all your kind words. They help me day by day. I can assure you.

Today was an absolutely manic day at work.

But I can safely say that I have balanced the books and can enjoy my weekend.

I do however feel a bit deflated today.

Not sure why yet. Once I get home and talk to my angel I'm sure I will be enlightened.

I'll try to get to the chatroom tonight. We'll see how I get on this time round.

You all have a good weekend.

Take a moment to reflect on what has brought you here and think about those who are still suffering(cg's and partners) and those who are no longer with us, who haven't had the strength we are developing.

God Bless You all

Charly

Charly....just a quickie, i dont think there is a chatroom on Fri nights.

Hope you feel better soon. Ive had a similar day, not that it helps..lol xx

Thanks Charly, i posted a thread in the "Gamcare online services feedback" section the other day as i was concerned about the amount of cancellations and inaccuracy of the information.

Its been one of those days, probably too much time on my hands for me and some personal stuff bugging me that i need to resolve. Its normal life i guess. Missing one of my ga meeting tonight because i am at work so not in the best of moods.

Tomorrow is another day. xx

Hi Charley

Isn't it strange people seem to be down at the moment. I am having bad couple of days, hopefully things will improve again.

I take it you find great strength in this site and you always make the effort to post on people's sites, especially the new people. It is always good to hear how humble you are and your advice is always welcome, even from the "other side"

Here's to better days

Debs xx

Charly, i just read your opening page, obviously there is too many pages for me to read all of it but good luck anyway.

hi charly as ever your words are always full of kindness and advise i am going to start yakeing some of that advise and try like anything to kick this gamblin thing in to tuch i need to for my wife as you already know she has ms but she is realy well at the moment but gets so tired after work memory not that great but not to bad you know i think you r a lovely person and so kind to every one so far i have keept the patck with you hope you have a nice weekend love and god bless you charly steven

Hi Charlie

Thank you for your kind words on my diary , its so nice and gives you such a great feeling when you have so many nice messages 🙂

Having a manic time of it at work i see , something i have been having too lately and thats more than enough to leave you feeling a bit flat and deflated at times , hope your "angel" managed to re-flate you with some warm and loving happiness , something you always seem to have plenty of to share around on here. xx

Hope you both have a great weekend

All the best

Stephen

Hi Diary

Am feeling strange still.

Went to my G.A. meeting last night and spent the first half with a lady who has accompanied her hubby.

To enable hubby and anyone who comes to the room to be open and honest, partners and/or family members are taken to a different room and we take turns to have a chat to them and answer any of their questions as open as possible.

It always gives me strength to hear partners, because it brings it back to me and I find it is important for me not to forget where I was once upon a time.

But it is difficult at times. I'm still dealing with so many issues myself and I don't have all the answers.

I'm trying very hard at the moment, not to let my day to day life get me down. The financial burden is crippling me and my family. Although I'm paying back my debts as best I can, it's money that is missing in the household pot. So my family, although proud of me for not gambling, are still suffering because of me. I find that hard to deal with. One thing I could do, ss find a better paid job. But, I haven't the energy at the moment to go out there and look.

I also find myself slipping into the old me. Have received another bill someone wants paying and as yet I have no idea how I am going to achive that,as all my money is now split between my debtors. It's sitting at home now, taunting me. Haven't told Angel about it yet. Don't know how to. He's worried enough as it is.

Great isn't it - I tell others to talk to their partners and be honest and here I am, knowing what I should do, but the coward in me has the upper hand at the moment. I'd like to have a solution worked out before I tell Angel about it. For once I want to tell him some bad news but then be able to take away the worried look with a positive solution.

Long term, I know we will be ok by the end of next year. Short term, I'm pulling my hair out, not knowing how to pay it all.

God Bless

Charly

Hi Diary

Have just read the posts JackG has posted in Steve's diary and I strangely feel better already. Can't believe that I wrote these quotes. I suppose I better get on and follow some of my own advise.

Onwards and upwards.

God Bless

Charly

Hi Charly...

Your's is one of the diaries that Ive read right through and I admire your strength- sounds like you need that today.

I'm not sure if you're allowed to say this on this forum but why not visit the Consumer Action Group website re people chasing you for money- go to the 'Debt Collection Industry' postings. It might just help you.

As for not being able to tell your Angel, you know deep down you can, perhaps you're just worried that you'll disappoint once again..Be honest in the way you know you can be and then just tell him what you've told us.."I know it's hard right now but in 18 months we'll be sorted."

Banish the cowardness that's ruling your heart right now. You're making the right steps, look at what you've already achieved and what you're going to achieve- focus on those feelings.

It's not bad news, it's just news. Here today and forgotten about soon enough. Be strong, I know you can be and so do you.

Paul

Hi Charly, sorry to hear you feeling a bit all over.

My initial reaction is that maybe you are overstretching yourself. Remember the old "pay at a rate you can afford" Maybe youre trying to go too quick. Reevaluate your payments to incorporate the new one poss.

As for your partner, hes proud of you, he loves you...hes right by your side...but (lol) dont risk that with a dumb secret however long you have it. Problem shared and all that...dont risk your recovery for anything youve come too far.

Keith xx

((((Charly)))

You know my situation is very similar to yours and I only came clean with my angel in January.

Every month end I still feel so ashamed cos we should have lots of cash to enjoy life with but instead are like you two financially crippled.

Strangely y angel is coming to terms with it all in a way better than me, guess because he didnt do the bad stuff. it was me.

Still he is supportive like your hubby and you know that he will always be there for you.

It will all come out right in the end, Peg wrote for me once.this too will pass.......and you know this is true.

Take care Charly and talk to your angel when you are ready.

lots of love

W xxx