It's been a while red. Hope ur ok Hun xxx
Keep checking in. Hope to see u soon x
Day 97
Hiya. Still here and still gf. It's been a crazy month and had the odd urge but only with only a cash card the blocks are fully in place. Plus the more time that passes the easier it gets. Also helps that OH is taking a break from it.
Wow red. Go u! Was worried for a bit. Can't believe I missed the big one. Here's to 101 days then xxxx
Hey Hun just popping over as I'm a little tempted. Hope u r all good. One day at a time
Day 105
Still here and staying strong but easier with the blocks. No access means the urges are stopped almost instantly. OH still not gambling, as far as I know, for now. Happy Friday everyone
Ps. Not posting as much cos 'the robot' makes it more of a chore but not giving up on giving up 🙂
Hi Rednow.
I know what you mean about the robot thing. It is getting worse now and it really is so off putting. Well done on all those g.f days. Long may it continue!
Our Lady
Yes it is annoying as u log in with my phone and the verification probably puts me off too. Anyway to another gf month xxxx
Day110
Nothing is perfect but life is much, much, MUCH happier, hopeful and simpler without gambling.
The thoughts still come and go but that's my gambling brain. I do not trust that idiot 🙂
Way to go u. Very right there are still good and bad days but without gambling life is much better x keep it up x
Day 118
Unfortunately having a OH who also has a gambling habit means the stress is never totally removed. However, yesterday I put in to practice how to deal with it which makes all the difference.
After a heavy night, I ran some chores whilst OH recovered. A couple things he had said didn't add up which make me on guard. Then, when I got home, he wasn't there and no answer on the mobile, not normal.
I was angry, but being alone with my emotions and realising I didn't know the actual truth, I was able to process how I felt.
When he came home and asked if I was ok I calmly explained that I knew he had lied as things aren't adding up which set my anxiety off and then I couldn't get hold of him so stressed and insecure was the result.
He admitted to gambling, whilst out and the evening before. He'd lost all winnings, apologised for lying and asked for contact for free gambling counselling.
Now, being a compulsive gambler myself, obviously I'm scepticle about how long this new view will last or if he will even follow through now the loss remorse has worn off. But I'm going to see this experience either way for what it was at the time - a positive interaction about 'our' problem. A win 🙂
17 months of debt payments left!
Wow you are right even if we stay gf gambling affects us if the OH continues. There negativity rubs off. Generally it's the OH gambling and resulting arguments/debates and lack of money that make me feel like giving in and gambling. Just have to try and stay positive and encourage them. X one day at a time
I wish you the best of luck in your recovery. It must be hard if you and your partner gamble. It could also been seen as a positive and could help one another!
Day 125
Worried he is gambling cos not answering the phone? Trying not to jump to conclusions and is not my control.
Proud of you. We can only control our own actions x
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