Dormant

Confrontations are never enjoyable. Yet, there a necessity for survival ..

I thank my dad for his old school stile of nurturing and facing the bully from his gibbly, gobbly speaking son. But then addictions got me shying away from potential confrontations. Still stood up to the adult bully but never comfortable in fronting strong characters.

Now I am and proud and rather than losing self respect from people pleasing, self respect is now dealing with things as they come .... even if it does mean pi.ssing some people off. Progress.

Long may the gift continue

Good post Paul and one that I could even understand LoL! Sometimes in life we have to stand up for ourselves and what we feel is right , despite sometimes instinctively all we really want to do is shy away from the confrontation . Best wishes and a big High5 coming at ya ! Sorry couldn't resist !

Sorry, but you're wrong about the birds....if I feed them more they'll just have extra ammunition for the glazing!

Confrontation eh? I'm not so good with it, but getting better. I'm ok as long as it's calm and reasonable but I get a big knot in my stomach when it starts to escalate...and raised voices send me straight back to childhood. I can do it though...I don't run away from it...but I know it takes it out of me. I guess I'm more of a lover than a fighter!

I agree that there is self respect in standing up for yourself. It takes a strong, grounded person not to people please. For me, the delivery is important though. Assertive rather than aggressive is what I aim for.

LB x

V,

Thanks...just thanks and maybe lil tiny (can't push 😉 ) apology for my last adventures on here.

I keep deep respect to you & always will.
Keep bouncing / breakdancing as ya always do ☺

Hope work is bringing you much joy (who am i kidding lol)
...but travels are adventuruous for your eyes! (No touching 😉 )

S x

Broken record alert..

I always refer to my journey from being 2 handed to an amputee when I think about recovery. And this is a reason of a particular stance I have regarding recovery and....... the broken triangle..

I lost my hand through sheer stupidity and a lot of drinking, 3 months previous of losing my hand, a friend lost the use of his arm through a work accident and negligence. He ended up getting a half mill pay out. But he never accepted the accident and got caught in the woe me, bitter at life trap and would even use me a sounding board as I listened and looked at my prosphetic.

A few years later, on hols, I randomly bumped into, at a bar 2 amiable Dutch pychiatrists and we got talking over a few pints. Something what resonated was that I'll accept and get over my accident because I didn't have anyone to blame. It was all Me, unlike my poor pal.

That was a good education for me. Anybody reading, will think what the hell has got to do with gambling or that im being arrogant.... I would disagree. ..

My long winded moral is, you cant blame the industry/ FOBT for your c.g. You can't blame the pub for being a alcoholic and you can't blame the dealer for being a J****E..

If you do, you stay on the roundabout of relapse...

Only my humble. ...

Random...

I love footie and Rugby. When a player in either sport is always going off side, is it not the duty of his team mates to pull him up about it? Or do they just let him carry on because he's a good bloke?

Depends how good he/she is...Taking them off or a bit of a kicking are my preferred options 😉

I know that's a trick question but there's a chance that I've got in early enough for the prize so...Yep, it's for the team to help 🙂

What have I won 🙂

Had a row this morning with my new roving boss, who comes in every other day. It must be the weather but we're back to being big buds again.

But the reason why I shared that is because Odaat has just planted a massive smile on this miserable mug. .

So Odaat, that deserves a big prize, but I'm stumped to what you can give to someone, who has everything. ,?

Another Barbie (girls), football (boys), talcum powder (women) & socks (men)...Everyone knows that!

Wouldn't be able to live with myself Odaat, if i was to give you either of the above. My ex was a big Emily Pankhurst fan! So you'll need to think again.

Random.. There's nothing wrong with a good old fashioned dust up. If it gets personal, then you lose your side of the argument. If you shout at each other, then the dust up will continue and there will be no outcome....

A smart kiwi ex use to tell me that and I agree....

Hey V

I think shouting at each other just makes argument bigger..both sides stops listening.
life is life. There is no crystal water if you chose to step on the sand...and we are all curious as human beings so will always be stepping on it..and that's fine...there is no perfection...just natural responses.

Very riddled thoughts lol..i learn quick huh 😉

Be good & behave

Drat Diary, I never respond to you like that but for this post I will.

Outwardly, im enjoying life in my 3d world. Inwardly, im feeling sad..

The reason I've kept a London rent and a Kent mortgage is because I have a good deal and live with a pal I've known near on 40 years. The money I save on travel, pretty much rivals the rent I pay.

There's no going back on my decision bur s***t this change is daunting.. I read years back that when ' you get sick of London, you've got sick of life '. I think that was written a 100 years back, sometimes I get it, sometimes I don't.

I've never known a home town in the entirety of my 48 years and thats always been one of my many hangups.

The stress and doubt is creaping in and I've been putting on my bravest face I can muster...

Truthfully i'm scared, im scared of lonliness and to what I will escape too. Will I renege on all the promises I've made to myself? I have for pretty much all my life, so how can I convince my self that this time, it will be any different..

Part of me thinks, im unwinding from life and prepping up to go into the next dimension.. Be careful what you wish for, keeps springing to mind....

I've enquired about river boat clubs, thinking maybe this could be an outlet. The criteria is to be able to swim 100 m lightly clothed.. probably could, but it would be in circles.

I've noticed more lack of patience of late, I know this is a release of stress.. .

There's no going back...... but the doubts are. ....... many.

Is this move in the book?

Kent isn't exactly heaven's waiting room! Give it a shot, if it doesn't work for you, you can always rent it out & revert to renting again!

I'm not a champion swimmer but if things get so desperate you need to get your hairy belly (& my more hairy legs) out in public then I will meet you @ a pool & teach you how to swim in a straight line only using your legs 🙂

Moving is one of those things on the divorce & taxes list that causes no end of stress so no need to be surprised you feel so low!

Embrace the change coz that's all it is!

f**k that acupuncture nonsense...I tried that before & still have the mental scars from the 90 year old GP kneeling down, rummaging about, sticking rusty needles into my girlie bits :-0

You don't need to worry about me...I've spent my entire life being selfish, a few posts to cyber friends who have given me a new lease life is no pressure compared to what I've left behind 🙂