Easy does it!

Great post, Smiler.

All we can do is to concentrate on today.

Then think about tomorrow when the time comes.

One day at a time, eh?

Enjoy the football.

NT

Holding resentments in recovery is dangerous. It gives us ammunition to gamble and justify to ourselves why we gambled. If anyone is feeling anger towards another please let it go. Easier said than done I know but it will do you more harm than the other person.

Just thought I would post that tonight!

Regards

Nice post Smiler.

I must admit I am feeling somewhat bemused by everything and a little over-protective!

Hopefully things are sorted now.

LMM

Hi Smiler,

Thanks for your post and support, I'm taking your advice. I've accepted my debts and am working out a plan to pay them back. Your last post was so true. It's amazing how we justify gambling to ourselves for so many reasons. Resentment is definately one of mine. Why do we try to hide from the real world so much? Ah well, now the gambling has stopped it's time to get back in the real world...and start enjoying!

Take care

Jes

Hey Smiler, Thanks for posting on my diary! Hope you are enjoying the bank holiday with your family x

Today is the most important day of anyone's recovery. It is the only day we have. Yesterday good, bad or indifferent has gone, it's in the past and we can do nothing about it. Tomorrow is not here so we have no idea what it brings.

For the next 12 hours or so all we have to do is go about a reasonably normal routine without gambling. If we feel like gambling simply pick up the phone and speak to Gamcare. Carry pictures of yourself and self exclude rather than gamble. That small little go that we think won't hurt can be very dangerous. Even more so if we show a profit for some time as we then believe we have the addiction under control.

We all know in our heart of hearts if we can gamble safely. For me I know it is impossible so i choose to stay away.

Thought I would have a rant and bump my diary up.

Take care

Hi Smiler... some sensible and wholesome advice in your diary. Its the sort of advice ive said to many a person but i also need to read it to hear it myself. Your post about letting go of anger towards others is so true.

Keep bumping up your diary with your thoughts.. all the best in recovery.. S.A 🙂

I want to write but I can't find the words to say. I am doing fine at present etc but anger has raised it's head and I just want to scream or lash out at someone or something. I won't because it isn't me. I don't know where it comes from. It is aimedat me as I have such high expectations of myself and I really can't deliver. Why can I not just accept where I am today. It hurts so much sometimes. It is madness. Bottom line is it passes and I will not gamble as it only makes everything worse. Take care

Morning,

I was thinking I don,t know you and do I do know you.

As a carbon copy of myself.

You have talked about this anger before, with me it is own out of frustration. Frustration that I can not be who I want to be, frustration that I want to achieve so much , and my addictive personality hinders everthing.

If you are angry at yourself, try to think how much you have accomplished , it is mind blowing. How you have had the strength to deal with areas in your life that others would just have left to lye. Drinking , gambling, the relationship with your family, your business.

So I know it's difficult, but give yourself a break, many of us look upto you as a straight talking no nonsense , guy, who many has got so much of his life on track.

I hope the anger disappears quickly, be kind to yourself, we both will accomplish more in our lives but we need to take a breather every now and again.

Take care !!!

Dusty xxxxxxxx

hi smiler,

i know how you are feeling, i ve been the same more or less and still i m strugling to cope with life.debts, no money at the bank, no personal relationships etc.what we have to do is to be patient.nothing gonna change just in one day.it will take some time.as long as we DONT GAMBLE!!!!

the longest will be the better for us.

take care

mike

Hiya Smiler,

First just want to say thank you for your words of wisdom on my diary. x

When I start getting angry and frustrated with myself I stop and think, would I behave this way towards my best friend? Or my child? Of course the answer is no. So why would I do this to myself?

Life is hard enough so we have to be good to ourselves. Treat ourselves well like we would treat others.

I've dropped my high expectations of myself, and that feeling of always falling short, as for me personally it was driven by my need for recognition, to prove something, to be somebody..which I know where it comes from ...and I'm letting that all go.

It's not to say that I'm going to let life pass me by...or not have a drive or ambition. I'm just being kinder to myself...my old mantra has been..didn't do enough, could have done better....pressure pressure...and I start to boil. New mantra..I did the best I could.

Hope you don't mind me rambling...I hope your feeling okay by that time you log on again. Thinking about you.

Love Delx

Thanks friends

The anger has subsided and feeling better. I really understand where it comes from but in the throws of it I am boiling inside. Everyone above is 100% correct with analysis. I have to be kinder to myself. It is tough enough without battling and beating myself up. My life is good but I know I should have done better. Truth is I haven't and I can do nothing about the past. It has gone and finished. I have vested interest in the future. Easy does it. Thanks again. This forum works if you let it work. Take care

Hi Smiler......just popping in to say hello ..Its a good step to just get those feelings of anger out in a safe place...thats the main thing so it doesn't fester.

Im glad the anger has subsided and I understand the impossible standards we often set ourselves that keep us in a treading water or catching up loop ....alwas never hitting the mark.

I think Its the bar we have set ourselves that has to change so we can finally feel at peace and happier with our lives and not have this perpetual carrot and stick thing going on...

Hope this makes sense Smiler....and as always take what you like and leave the rest...always with the best intent for you in mind......

Love and hugs Rach and Doo xxx

Glad your feeling better Smiler 🙂

Love Del x

Thanks Guys

It pains me to say but this recovery is a daily charge. I have to start each day from scratch and think to myself just for today. If I start projecting that is when the anger and resentment steps in. I take a good look at what I have and what I can do just for today. Difficult at times but needs to be done to have any sort of quality of life.

Thanks again & TAke care