Where do I begin. I've been reading these forums for a few days now and feel this is last chance saloon for me, anything no matter how little has to give me that extra push to beat this nightmare I'm living in. That part of my life is a nightmare anyway, that exterior I show to everyone. On show is a happy family man, two kids and wife who wouldn't suspect a thing. How, why do I keep lying to my family! Those god d**n roulette machines that's why. Have been so close to ending it all many times but I couldn't do that to my family it would be such a selfish act. I'm reaching out, hopefully some of you kind people can show me the way out of this hell hole. 10,000's lost over the years, 600 lost yesterday, 900 today. Self exclusion doesn't work there's so many of them around here.
This has to be and will be the start of something new.
This is my DAY 1
Alright scooby I'm new to this site aswell felt exactly the same has u did lost 4k in a week last week and lost absolutely thousands over my 8 years of gambling I was trying to fight it on my own and leading a double life one were I had to pretend everything was fine and dandy and one were I was just losing more and more so I had to come clean and tell my missus I also have a lad aged 1 and I'm determined that I will beat this for him so he never witnesses me doing it or that he is never brought up round it I haven't had a gamble now since 01-00 on 27/02/14 and I'm already feeling good I now have no lies no secrets and no big sums of money or bank cards. Just taking it day by day and hoping I can keep strong. I hope you can follow me and we both can leave this horrible habit behind
I used to think self exclusion didn't work and truth be known if you want to gamble you will. However once I did self exclude it started another mind set. I would think of myself as a naughty boy if I wanted to gamble. It is the start of your recovery and you need to make small steps in the right direction. Do not leave doors open. Carry photocopied pictures of yourself for if you stray into a bookies you have the option of walking to the counter and excluding. It is tough sometimes but no one said it's easy. If it was we would all be in and out of recovery every other week. Recovery is a journey for you to behold it is not a destination
Take care
Hi lee..thanks for taking the time to reply. I've said it many times to myself ..I'll.do it for my kids, but that never seems to be enough. Unfortunately I can't come clean to the wife, I'm already on my last chance as this has destroyed her before and she couldn't go through it again and I won't put her through it again, again you would think that would be enough to not step foot in a bookies, but it isn't. The sad thing is I don't even enjoy playing the machines, don't enjoy going in the bookies. Well done on your 3 days clean
Keep strong..I know I'm going to try to, gonna give it a good d**n go.
Thanks for your words smiler they.are greatly appreciated. I am prepared for this to be a very hard long journey and any advice is greatly appreciated. There must be well over 50 bookies within a half hour drive of me,about 6 within walking distance and I've already sent in the self exclusion forms, so that's a little start, here's to hoping both parties abide by them!
You have to physically walk in with photos otherwise they'll not act. Speak to someone on Netline and get some support there. Ultimately this is for you. You cannot do this for anyone other than yourself. Once you are sorted everything falls into place. Take care
hi Scooby doo , seriously ive self excluded with online gambling , and then thought about it still with urges then moved onto another sit and opened an account with them , but ive learned even though there are probably hundreds of sites , I have asked everyone now to self exclude me but have also made it clear to them , that they must self exclude me from any other linked sites, I self excluded from one site 6 days ago and asked them to excude me from any linked site I could not believe it there were about another 20 sites that were linked which im now excuded from and I would say probably 19 of which I had not yet joined so it stops me in the future from joining , grosvner casino is where I first strated not online but real one but I also joined online one after self excluding I also at the same time asked them to excude me from all non online grosvner casinos aswell , which has helped a lot with me as I to be honest would love to go back but cant , because they said even if I got in if they didn't show me the door , they would still not pay me if I won as I have self excluded which makes it pointless in going . so what I am saying is self excude smiler is dead right , even if it doesn't help loads it will help a bit and cant hurt , take a day off work or something and go into every bookies take your photo like smiler said and self excude on that day from every bookies , if nothing it surely will give you almost a feeling of freedom in your local area knowing there wont be a bookies near you that you can use , giving you freedom from temptation, its not easy I know ive self excluded sometimes and have after hated myself because I wished I hadn't as I wanted to play that site again thinking I had a new system that would work but a few days later always know ive done the right thing . Also if you can take somebody with you when you self exclude as this will stop any temptation from gambling instead, and don't be ashamed or embarrassed hold your head up high when doing it if anything when you selfexcude your the bravest most sensible person at that time . last point and sorry to woffle on ive not been really addicted to bookies just online casinos really so have not needed to self excude from bookies just online but any casino online that's had a bookies on the high street I have also asked them to exclude me from the high street aswell , so its worth it , if you can find somebody to look after your bank card and credit cards ? but forget what you have lost and think how much you can save by not gambling anymore , and remember you cant win at gambling because once you have started gambling you cant stop . YOU CAN DO THIS thanks simon
Cheers scooby
I felt exactly the same pal and I think that's how I know am ready to stop I hit a number online with £20 on it and didn't even get a buzz or smile all I wanted was to carry on and I don't need to tell you the end result. Even my betting on football I was staking stupid amounts on next corner or next team to receive a yellow card just so I didn't have to wait 90 mins. I also look back and feel ashamed at how much of my time gambling has took up but like I said if I can which am feeling confident I can it won't take another minute.
Good luck for today pal let's add another day free from that horrible habit !!!!
I thought about your post last night and awoke to tell you to self exclude from all 50 shops if you have to. Yes it takes time but if you wanted to gamble you would go to the same extremes. However Tryer has already posted most of what I wanted to say. Hope you get on board and move forward
Take care
Hi scooby I've just come clean again the other day for the third or fourth time and I think I'm only still in the house because of the kids and she's scared of what will happen to me if she leaves. I'm on day three today, I'm in the same position as you two kids etc i think it is best if you tell your wife no more secrets no more lies get it all of your chest it's for the best because not telling her will eat away at you and try to get to ga meetings they are really good I didn't gamble for thirteen months with there help stopped going and started to gamble again I'm heading back to ga tonight can't wait keep your chin pal.
Hope to have managed another day scooby pal
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