Tried everything to stop gambling. Doing this diary for myself. Me and my husband both gamble but I don't want to do it anymore he says that he doesn't want to also but I feel that I should face his own demons and I mine. Today I felt strong but he talked me into going into the bookies with him so obviously I was not strong enough was I? When he lost our money he was very angry and basically showed me up in the bookies and everyone was staring. I told him that I had had enough and that we should part because as a couple we were destructive. He has had a problem with alcohol in the past but has sought help and has done really well being over 14 months drink free and I'm really proud of him but this is my problem and I want to fight it on my own . If he can stop drinking I can stop gambling and by doing this diary maybe I can prove it to him perhaps then he will do his own diary but I need to do this for myself.Thanks for reading. Day one tomorrow hopefully I will be able to keep it up.
Stay strong. Concentrate on the reasons why you want to stop gambling. It will be difficult having a persuasive partner... as it is hard enough go to avoid gambling when it's only your own mind trying to tempt you.
All the very best and I look forward to seeing how you get on. Mikey
Thank you Mikey for your quick reply. Its nice to be able to share this problem with like minded people and I will certainly keep you posted
Day one and had to work. Thought what's the point when the bookies takes it all.Calmed down with my husband it wasn't just his fault I could've made my own decisions however even though we're in it together need to do this on my own.
Hi Sparky
Thank you for sharing your story - how did day one go?
In order to kick this habit you need to have the confidence to know you can do it and you can do it! Focus on all the things you can treat yourself too such as holidays etc once you stop spending your money on gambling. Not only that, you will probably feel a lot less anxious and irritated as this tends to increase when you are gambling.
On my diary I have recommended a book which is assisting me with my recovery at the minute and would recommend you have a look!
I know you can do it!
Athena
Thank you Athena for your kind words and advice.I will check out your diary for the title of the book. Day one went OK because everything still felt raw. If only we could keep that feeling with us when ever we felt tempted it would be an excellent deterrent against gambling. However I am going to do my level best to keep posting and stay gamble free. Sparky xx
How was today> still on track? I know it doesnt get easier as the initial feelings of shock and hurt after a gambling low deteriates in minutes nevermind days months and even years. Just remember that gambling does nothing for you and therefore it is fine just to get rid of it from your life, it wastes your time money and comprimises your relationship with various people - therefore its fine to eliminate from your life - you are better of without it.
Athena
You are right Athena I am better off without gambling in my life. Family are much more important especially my mum she has chronic kidney disease and is really quite poorly to her I am the perfect daughter because I look after her. How would she feel if she knew? Going to keep posting on my diary and do my best to stay gamble free. Sparky xx
Four days in and still gf. Took mum to hospital for her appointment and then after we went for lunch. It was lovely to spend time with mum and because she had recently been in hospital for a while she was glad to be out in the fresh air. Still feeling strong and looking forward to a gf day five. There's more to life than gambling.Will post tomorrow Sparky xx
Apologies for not posting yesterday as promised but my mum was taken into hospital again and things don't look too good for her so I'm a bit at sixes and sevens at the moment however I'm still gf and still feeling strong Sparky x
Mum has had to have a pacemaker fitted so she is quite poorly even though now she says she'll be able to get the coal in!! I am going to have her grit and determination and endeavour to stay gf. Day seven Sparky x
Day nine and still gf. Mum is getting very irate and cantankerous because she's stuck in hospital even the nurses are afraid of her! ! But even her moodiness is not making me want to gamble. Determined to stay strong. Double figures tomorrow Sparky x
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