Life With Sports Bets Only

captain46

I am a new poster so apologies if my comments might appear "out of turn". I fully agree with the previous posts regarding your feelings about others on this board wishing you to fail. My "take" on this, is that you are very wide of the mark. By posting on this board, the likes of you, winningpost etc. are giving tremendous help to others such as myself. I am trying to deal with my gambling problem and that reading through the recovery diaries, such as yours has given me tremendous inspiration to change. Many of the very sad stories I have read, including "failures" along the way, have shown that I am not alone, in having a gambling addiction. I have experienced "failures" like yourself and reading similar ones on this board has shown that we are all human after all. It offers a degree of comfort I am sorry to say. But this is far different from wanting individuals to fail?

When I have had relapses in the past I have often acted and thought irrationally, and have often vented my anger at my stupidity by blaming or taking it out on others. I am very sad to say that, even though matters were clearly my fault, this ploy acted a bit like a safety value to vent my frustration. Possibly some of the feelings you have about fellow posters are of a similar nature?

RayG

Thanks for your post and your encouraging words on my own recovery.

I too came on here wanting to learn to play my favourite game in a controlled manner and enjoy it. You will glean that from my earlier posts. My first question to Ask Gamcare addressed this.Un fortunately, though for a long time I have not been able to do that and have accepted that I have a problem.

I am , however open to the possibility of being able to play an occasional tournament in the future, but I realise that for now, until I have sorted out my issues and maybe got to grips with why this got out of hand for me, I need a period of abstinence for my own peace of mind. So that I will know if it is possible or indeed if I will want to play again.

Since you are clearly having trouble just now and not able to be in control I believe you NEED to do the same. Wait until you have sorted out in your head why things got so bad, so you can fix them. If you can't wait and you have to gamble now then why is that?

Lili

wp,Ray,Lili, thanks for posts.

Not gonna keep going on about this but you guys have all chosen the route of complete abstinence and I respect that. Because of this you get 100% support.

I have not and wont choose that route.

OK no-one actually comes out on their diary and says 'I want you to fail' but some do imply this for me and some others who do not see the total abstinence route as the only way available to conquer this illness.

Over and out, subject closed. We can all succeed in our own way.

Hello Gorgeous lol

How are you today? Been catching up with your diary...checking you out with my beady eye!

You watching much of the world cup C? As you know I am a massive footie fan...NOT lol. I did watch the England game on Saturday...had a flag draped over my shoulders and a rediculous hat with bells on and some sort of hand clapping thing. It was fun although slightly mad. You would have been welcome to join us if you lived in the Midlands.

I hope you are ok my Dear friend......keep posting and stick to what works for you.

Much love from Jas x

Hi Captain...

I dont think ANYONE wants you to fail, more perhaps try and catch you before you fall????

You know many people here are rather surprised when i tell them i work in a bookies....the two usual questions that follow that are why are you here......... and do you gamble.....

The answer to the first can be found on this forum, the second well on the odd occasion yes, but my feelings are im not gonna work x amount of hours to give it right back to them...

Maybe it is possible (for you) to make a living from your knowledge of football, and sports , but its all just a pointless excercise if your gonna take it with one hand and give it back with the other?????

Maybe spend this time furthering your knowledge on the things that you love........

rather than just filling your time with ........*censored * lol

You are as much a part of this community as the next person Captain, sometimes wires get crossed and drawers get twisted (in my case !!! hehe)

As always

I wish you well

TC

kim xxx

Jas/Kim

Thanks for posts, appreciate as ever the unconditional support you two provide. Can feel the love coming through as you type...

Watched the England game Jas, yeah, I dont support a club side so watching England games are some of the few occasions in the sporting calendar I can watch with interest and passion without having a bet on it.

I know it is a pointless exercise to win on football and give it back on virtual racing rubbish Kim, hope I can put a stop to that.

captain46

firstly, thank you for pointing out the error of my ways on the board tonight. I was unaware that you should not post odds, even in jest. part of the reason for me in doing so, was that I was using terms and banter which other posters might relate to. strange thing to do, but possibly better than pretending those odds and temptation have just gone away? or joining in on a chat line, where many at the same time are also watching the live WC football thinking of the odds and at the same time risking placing a bet!!!

RayG

captain46. about the quip tonight on the chat line which I think you possibly did not get? About me offering odds as to who might post next on the chat line. The point I was trying to make was that it was just as much a pointless bet as virtual racing? And you beating yourself up over wasting money on virtual racing. It is a fact of life that you can always find someone whom is so desperate to bet that they would even wager on the next post on a board or the next goal scorer , or even a virtual horse! Apologies if my logic and sense of humour was unclear.

RayG

Thanks for posts, Ray, I understand where you are coming from and I agree with you. Good chatting to you last night.

(Sorry couldnt find your diary to post on so hoping you read this.)

How you doing Captain?????

kim xx

Hi Kim,

thanks for maintaining an interest in me.

I'm still gambling on random rubbish every day. Over the last week I've been winning and therefore it feels temporarily better but I knew it wouldnt last and today I gave all my winnings for the week back in less than an hour.

I asked again at the bookmakers I frequent most regular about allowing me to bet on football only and whilst the manager was sympathetic to my request, she said she would in trouble with bosses if she did that as it was against any policy they have. She also said it would be far too difficult to police with all the different staff they have on at different times, and particularly at busy times if I was at counter with a number of others when they just stick bets through as fast as possible the bet would be on before they even remembered about my request.

So I cant rely on shop staff to help me out, need to do this by myself for myself.

Your welcome 🙂

I think that this particualr manager may have been swinging the lead a tad......

I had an instance the other day where this guy (who had clearly had too many shandies )

kept coming upto the counter and loading £ onto the machine using his debit card....i let him have a couple of goes then thought enough is enough and told him i would not serve him anymore.........is this against any policy ??? absolutley NOT im protecting the individual and the business...........

I do understand what she is saying tho, about the different staff and how difficult it could be, but i do think there has to be a compromise somehow.............

Have a confession to make Captain i always laugh at the words 'winnings' (sorry) more like a temporary loan which shall be paid back with massive interest me thinks ......... eh?????

Your right tho you do need to do this for yourself, although not entirely alone, you have many friends here you know........

Take care

Kim xx

hi captain.

Why don't you put a limit on the amont of cash you can withdraw everyday. I have put mine down to £50. and it seems to have worked. The most you can lose is £50 in one day. I have not been in there all week but if i lapse it will only cost me £50. not £500 like before.

carl.

Hi Captain,

Cheers for the post mate.

I know by now that you are determined to tackle your problem your own way so i am not going to offer you advice on how to stop 'random' gambling. I know you can do it though.

You always have my support Captain.

Well I really hope the shake I got today is going to help me stay away from random gambling for good.

My bank have accused me of money laundering!

This is due to me ( based on advice on here and elsewhere) trying to put money in bank / pay debts as opposed to keeping too much cash readily available.

The bank are uncomfortable with me paying in amounts in cash then withdrawing.

They refused to allow me to make a withdrawal today unless I could tell them where the cash was coming from and where the amounts of money I had withdrawn were going! I told them it was non of their business and walked out!