looking for support :'(

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My Story:

My problem with gambling started just under 10 years ago when I became 18 and legal to gamble but I didn't consider it a problem then.

I'm now 27,have had a good job until a year ago and now I have an even better job at 40k+ but I STILL live with my mother and I have no savings whatsoever!!

I thought getting this better job would be the end of all my problems but I have gotten worse,alot worse.

I play online blackjack,roulette and poker.

Over the last week I have lost 1500 leaving me with 200 until my next payday 2 weeks away and things like this have been happening for the last 3-4months including playing almost every other day.

My grandma died recently and left me money which I have just put down for a house and I have managed to secure a mortgage so I move in to the house in 7 weeks but I know if I don't get this under control NOW I am going to mess up this house completely.

I am already stressing about furniture,bills etc...

I know I'm definitely in a good position to change my life right now as I have recently cleared my debts and have none(which were due to gambling) but I keep going back to gambling.

I'm new to this forum so just looking for a bit of support but I really want to stop completely so Im not scraping by every month. Thanks everyone X

 
Posted : 3rd September 2014 8:34 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Forgot to say this is the start of my diary...I'l be updating it every couple of days. Thanks

 
Posted : 3rd September 2014 8:36 pm
scottyboy
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Hi there,1st you have come to the right place if you want support to stop gambling.over the years I have earned more and more over the last 10 year but all that I have done is just lose more and more.you can have everything you want in life without placing that 1st bet.all gambling causes is stress,guilt,anger,remorse,ill and sick.the main reason I chose to stop gambling was not only for myself and family.it was because I was sick of being sick.take care and stick bye this site it will work if you let it.

 
Posted : 3rd September 2014 9:27 pm
duncan.mac
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Ali

A huge well done for finding the courage to arrest the destruction that is the gambling in your life.

For me without doubt this addiction is progressive in nature and will eat up all you feed it and more.

That house could soon be waged as our mantra whilst gambling is the same

I CANNOT WIN BECAUSE I CANNOT STOP,no bet ever big enough to satisfy our greed and lust for the next punt.

The advice gifted to me on my first days recovery still works today

There is a triangle

Time-money-location

Take one away at all times and the punt becomes impossible,that next bet would take a huge effort to place,you gift yourself a win by not placing it.

block your computer,deny access to funds do anything to gift yourself the time to let the rational side of the brain take charge.

We are not bad people,we are folk with an addiction.

There is no shame in that,the shame comes if we carry on gambling.

Through abstinence you will actually become a winner

I look forward to reading how your streak continues.

Abstain and maintain

Duncs stepping forward never back

 
Posted : 3rd September 2014 10:20 pm
(@Anonymous)
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Thanks Scotty,Dunc. I'm already feeling a real boost in motivation just from reading both your messages. Gambling is eating away at my money,time,happiness and I'v had enough. I need to start building my life for the future now. Thanks for the support. 🙂

 
Posted : 3rd September 2014 10:36 pm
triangle
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Hello Ali

Support is something this forum does well

Keep going and putting in the effort

You could ring gamcare or online support and get some more help?

tri

 
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