Regaining control after slip

Hi Blues... I agree that you have to want to stop 100% for yourself. I also agree that we must try to make the best of what life has dealt us and stop punishing ourselves for the mistakes of the past.

I am 41 and I intend to be in a better place for the next 41 years. Onwards mate to better times... S.A 🙂

Hi Blues

Well done try to enjoy things

Michael

I'm back after piecing my life slowly back together, I'm still gambling but infrequently and now my head is in a better place, it's time to try to abstain completely, there is so much more this life can give. Good to see regulars on this forum coping with the day to day struggles and improving their lives. Also I hope anyone new trying to kick this disease succeeds, as ultimately we can't win today, can't win tomorrow and will never win unless we STOP NOW!

Take Care

Blues

Hi ya Blues... yes i'm still here, yawn. 😉

Glad to read that your in better headspace. Completely abstaining is the way my friend. That is my opinion anyway. Keep the money in the bank. Take care... S.A 🙂

S.A. thanks for your reply, i'm genuinely delighted you are approaching 10 months bet free - I know its the only way my friend and I feel this would be the second final piece (giving up completely) in my life and will lead to me finishing the jigsaw and reuniting my family and I

Take Care

Blues

I keep coming back but its not enough - I can honestly say I cant stop, don't know what the consequences are anymore - I am a good person and wish you all the best with your recovery - I don't know who I am any more, where I am, im so happy to lose everything and be homeless and cause trouble-it will only end one way

I am proud of everyone who remains gamble free, please pat yourself on the back what you are doing is massive

Take Care

Blues

Hi Blues...never give up giving up mate. Life does get better when we don't gamble. There is always free rehab if it all feels too much just now www.gordonmoody.org.uk

Day at a time, hour at a time. Renew that desire not to gamble anymore. keep safe... S.A

Blues.

As Sa said fella never give up on giving up, gambling will without doubt take all we have to give and more.

Take all the help you can get, remember you are not alone, I believe addiction loves to make us think we are.

Regards and be kind to yourself.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Thank you - please give me more though, I cant cope-my head is gone, f*** gambling, im in the middle of the storm, trust me you don't want to be here....why?

Blues

Fella there is a way to stop the storm step outside of it.

That comes with a choice. To arrest the addiction.

You know as well as I do there is no cure or magic potion to gift you. I can't make the Shi*t storm stop only

You can make the choice.

I refer to a piece of advice I was given the first day I entered recovery

There is a triangle Time-money-location take at least one away and the punt. Becomes impossible gifting yourself the chance to re wire that addled brain.

Me I took my addiction to within a day of losing my family my home and all I professed to hold dear.

Take all the help out there, for me GA has played a huge

Part in my recovery. But I understand it is not for everyone . There are many other options you have to find one for you.

Bottom line is you have to make the choice to stop.

To which I hope you do. This addiction will keep on taking. The financial losses are a small part, actually the easiest to fix.

Change the mantra from I cannot win because I cannot stop to one of a winner

I did win because I did stop.

Me I would love to help however I can, as abstinence has been an amazing gift and with irony it costs nothing.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

P.s sorry for the terrible crammed I am using my wife's new fangled phone!!! I usually only post from the library but as I posted on my thread earlier today your post last night hit me like a right hook.

Hi, I've been here since 2007 and only recently have started to feel like I'm having a bit of success. I'm battling multiple addictions and haven't abstained from anything in many, many years until recently. For me the lightbulb came on over such obvious things... when I realized that I would never want to stop so had to force myself and that I had to be prepared for some discomfort and develop strategies to deal with that. Keep trying and really try to internalize the advice you are getting from folks here. Wishing you strength!

Disaster! Total Disaster!

Hey Blues

Hope this finds you in a better place.

You know what to do. Stay strong.

Best wishes for the days ahead

Gazza

Day 2-met with a friend yesterday and poured it all out (and I mean it all) and it did me a little good-there are some wonderful people out there in this world who far outweigh the bad guys. I don't blame the bookies, but have my self exclusion form filled in and ready to hand in when they close this evening.

Take Care

Blues

All I can think of is bloody horses, football etc - but as someone said - time (i'm in work) - location (i'm in work) - money (I have none) so as much as the urges are kicking in, I cant do anything about it - thank god in a way I guess! I do know from past experience that these urges will subside, but I cant ignore them at the same time

Take Care

Blues