Road to recovery started last night

Hi & welcome to GamCare ☺

I'm sure others will have more words of wisdom but i am happy to see you already made steps forward ☺

Keep them up, learn, discover - accept. Recovery is for life and you don't need luck here...you're in control and your actions will speak volumes!
You sound committed and determined to put things right again, do not let any obstacles get in a way, you can do it for yourself and your loved ones...try every tool possible to help yourself and you will come out a winner! Also, don't forget that trust has been broken and it takes long time to regain it. Your loved ones might welcome support also, there is more than one way street in recovery.

Keep posting, there is hope & pure freedom round here ☺

Take care - one day at a time

Mccanng4 wrote:

Saw you on chat last night, welcome/

You have a big year ahead of you.

Imagine as the church organ starts to play 'Here comes the bride' in October, and you turn to greet your wife to be with 'the smile'....that yours is not only a smile of love and joy, its also a smile of personal pride.

Pride based on the knowledge you have been 8 months gamble free and turned your life around.

Give the two of you the start in life together you both deserve.........get strong and beat this mate.

If you really want it - its yours !

Sbb

Day 1 on the road to recovery. Can't remember a period of time in my adult life where I've not been gambling. I'm 29 and have "tried" to stop before but get drawn back in. I not know or understand why I do however now know that I have a gambling addiction. I've in the past given up, closed accounts, been bailed out by my mum and my fiancГ© only to break their hearts by starting again, lying and deceiving to get money to keep going. I'm due to get married in October so today is the day I change my life. I've excluded myself from all betting accounts for 5 years and surrendered all access to money( bank cards online banking even other people's banking) and I'm determined to make this work this time. Losing upwards of £200 in the space of 10 minutes needs to be behind me and being happy is my new goal!

Wish me luck!

Hi Mccanng4

Welcome to the forum and you are in the right place if you WANT to give up gambling but it's going to be a long road with a few bumpy patches and ups and downs along the way ! Like you have said it's the lying and deceiving that hurts our loved ones so much from our gambling as you and I only know to well, just that you have got the chance to right things with your girlfriend before you get married later on in the year, where as gambling has probably cost me my marriage to my wife who I do deeply love so much but as I understand she can only take so much of the lies and deceit over the 16 years we have being married ! As I said earlier you have to WANT to give up for things to work and I know that's definitely that's what I want and know it's a long road but even in my short time without gambling, life is so much better. Just remember what you have to look forward to later on in the year and believe me it will be one of the best days of your life, but if you carry on gambling there's every chance this day won't happen as your girlfriend won't want this life believe me ! Sorry to sound harsh but it's reality ! Let others take control of your finances if you find this hard as it does help, unfortunately I'm living on my own so have to manage my own finances at this time but I'm surviving. I shall look out for future posts.

"It's good to talk and take it one day at a time"

All the Best

Darren

Cheers all! I'm going to keep this open all the time on my safari on my phone. Long road does start today I know what my motivations are and they are to make me better and suppress the demon that I have. Like you all say if that happens the rest of things can take place for themselves. Stayed at my parents last night to give my fiancГ© a bit space. She says she loves me and is understanding that it is an addiction, I'm pretty sure this is last chance saloon and I'm not prepared to lose everything for an addiction which brings me no happiness.

One day at a time!

Good luck Mccanng4 on all fronts and yes your girlfriend and parents will be hurting very much from your addiction. As I've said there will be many ups and down on this road to recovery but if I can give you one bit of advice do this for yourself and hopefully others will find it in them to forgive you in time. Best of luck mate.

Darren

Mccanng4 Having read through your posts you sound very thoughtful and clearly want to stop gambling. If you read through the diaries on this forum you will find honesty, disclosure, heartache, inspiration and good advise.

I wish you really well on getting your life back together. It's not easy. But it sounds as if you have the support and understanding from your family.